not met before for example at a meet.

 

how do YOU drum up a conversation thats doesnt make you sound like a boring shit!

 

my hate is meeting people for the first time especially at meets cos i trip over my words and can't think of anything interesting to say. most conversations last about a minute and then im back to wandering around the cars generally embarrassed and try to avoid conversation again.

 

its a bit of a social problem with me. i love the cars and im a total petrol head but to interact with the human race i find is the most difficult thing for me. think im becoming a agrophobic ! :shock:

 

perhaps i just don't have must in common with most folk.

 

 

 

ps sorry for the serious question just got me thinking tonight as im getting really pissed off with myself :mad:

I used to be the same when I was younger, then I started part time work at a local pub waiting on and working behind the bar - problem soon went :)

 

I get people coming up to me at meets that I don't even know and have never met, usually for a bit of help and advice though :rofl:

 

Remember if someone has gone to a meet its because they want to meet people not just sit in their car. They obviously want to talk otherwise they'd just have stayed at home ;)

 

There's always the other option - get someone else to drive and have a few beers for a bit of confidence ;) :D

i think people only come chat to you mate to oggle at your lady lol

Its a confidence thing gaz, i find in general life sometimes dependant on my mood i cant be fooked to talk, other times i dont shut up. As said get the agrophobic out of your head, just jump in and you will find your worrying over nothing, i think your a nice bloke mate, and would happily drink a soft southern shandy with ya ;)

 

Nice one Greg, from a fellow gooner :hyper:

 

Just say hello to me mate ... I'll give you a hug and chatter to you, my knowledge of Zeds is limited but I don't care I love the social aspect of Zed meets and staring into Zeds and going ooooooohhh:D

 

So you are welcomne at any Mids Meet or if I don't see you before at a national one

i understand totally what you are saying as i was that way when i was younger, i think i was about 30 before i said to myself i i can stand in the shadows all my life or try to talk to people, and as others have said once you do it a couple of times it gets easier, now i dont shut up

the cars are a great common topic, why not come to the sc meet on the 1st, i will talk to you (wheather you like it or not) and as for chewie you wont be able to shut him up and the same for the others im sure

Nice one Greg, from a fellow gooner :hyper:

 

Oh no... and I moved to west mids to get away from gooners!

 

Come on you spurs!

 

On a serious note, this proves that you can almost always find a topic to chat about, be it cars or footy or anything.

 

If you think about it, we already have an introduction waiting to be used because we have the common interest of the 300zx..

 

My advice is just walk up to someone and start talking about the cars, you will soon see how chatty they are and conversations will take a mind of there own.

i understand totally what you are saying as i was that way when i was younger, i think i was about 30 before i said to myself i i can stand in the shadows all my life or try to talk to people, and as others have said once you do it a couple of times it gets easier, now i dont shut up

the cars are a great common topic, why not come to the sc meet on the 1st, i will talk to you (wheather you like it or not) and as for chewie you wont be able to shut him up and the same for the others im sure

im currently sourcing the ££ to sat in southampton on sat night!! i really want to go to this :)

im currently sourcing the ££ to sat in southampton on sat night!! i really want to go to this :)

:hyper: great, chewie has a room in the hotel sat night im sure he wouldnt mind if you shared, half the expense for you both, i know its not my place to offer but hey he says i love doing the mammy bit!

:hyper: great, chewie has a room in the hotel sat night im sure he wouldnt mind if you shared, half the expense for you both, i know its not my place to offer but hey he says i love doing the mammy bit!

HEHE caz my other half is coming too LOL.

im sure he wouldnt mind that either, only joking!

not read everyones reply, but i just waffle, i have to chat to strangers on a daily basis, im also a plumber and have to spout crap about how your full bathroom needs changing due to a faulty light bulb in your down stairs cupboard so im used to filling people full of shite lol

I have always been a shy introverted person :cry:

Im would love to offer an easy solution for you matey but i think im in the "walk up to some one and say hi, couldnt give a monkeys type bloke" and have never had a problem talking to strangers. I suppose working as a copper its a must.

 

I would say the thing you have to bare in mind is that MOST people are at meets for the same reason, for the cars. And that there are people just like yourself who are just as nervous about speaking to complete strangers, and maybe why yur getting one word answers from them???

 

The fact is fella, that your making the effort to approach someone to introduce yourself. If you can get over that hurdle then i certainly wouldnt say your someone lacking in self confidence. I would say the next hardest thing would be finding that conversation starter.

 

Personally, once ive got the initial reaction off someone, i generally start with something like " Sorry, my names nick, ive got the 300zx over there" or "A good mate of mine used to have one of these, and he really rated it". It doesnt matter what the car is, it could be a complete wreck, but youve given someone that little something to comeback with.

 

Using "open" questions is also worth trying. Things like "If i were to buy one of those, what the best thing to look out for" as opposed to "how long you had that" which is likely to end up with one word answers.

 

oh, and get that *****x of being agrophobic out of your head, nobber!!!

 

good advice Nick :bow:

Gaz, one important thing I learned is that the art of conversation is to be a good listener. meeting someone for the first time who doesn't seem to want to talk can be awkward, but depending on the circumstances , be cool and be yourself. I know a lot of people who are really quiet and they can un-nerve me sometimes cos i'm wondering what they're thinking, but at the same time would love to be like them,

 

There are 3 reasons you would get a one word answer from somebody you just met. They're painfully shy or downright rude or really busy.

 

you could always try "hey, i'm talkin' to you dickhead"...after a few pints of course :D

:hyper: great, chewie has a room in the hotel sat night im sure he wouldnt mind if you shared, half the expense for you both, i know its not my place to offer

 

fookin chalk it down it's not your place, cheeky florist :D

 

gaz , if you run short of a few squids i'll take the sofa and yourself and herself can have the bed. just make sure the lighting is good for the video :D

lol mate wear an amuseing t shirt that normally works for me

 

No good for Gaz, the roll-neck would cover it up :rofl:

 

 

Seriously though, I know what you mean Gaz, feel much the same way myself most of the time and if truth be known you'll probably find that most people - even the super confident ones - have doubts every now and then. Car meets can be daunting, especially first time 'round, 'coz everyone seems to know everyone else and appear more knowledgeable I tend to just say Hi and head for the bar!!! and then wander around trying small talk to break the ice.

Have to say you and Caz made me and Ned feel welcome at our first meet and I'd never have known you had these concerns.

Hope to see you for the S. Central Christmas bash as I owe you a 'special :duffer: becks', but, if we're going to be there it'll be for the Sunday Roast.

Cheers Mate,

Steve

how do YOU drum up a conversation thats doesnt make you sound like a boring shit!

 

my hate is meeting people for the first time especially at meets cos i trip over my words and can't think of anything interesting to say. most conversations last about a minute and then im back to wandering around the cars generally embarrassed and try to avoid conversation again.

 

its a bit of a social problem with me. i love the cars and im a total petrol head but to interact with the human race i find is the most difficult thing for me. think im becoming a agrophobic ! :shock:

 

And your forum name is HELLRAISER!!!! :rofl:

 

sorry Gaz a :slap: for me ;)

And your forum name is HELLRAISER!!!! :rofl:

 

sorry Gaz a :slap: for me ;)

ironic isnt it! :rofl:

thanks all . i have taken all the advise. lets see what happens eigh

thanks all . i have taken all the advise. lets see what happens eigh

 

me too matey :nelson: great advice there as im one of the shy ones too LOL!! time to get my butt up to a few meets i think :hyper: