Well over the weekend I have had contact with Jane with the folowing results. I have told her how I feel about her and that I really want to Marry and be with her for the rest of my life. It turns out that she has met a Greek man on holiday and has brought him home with her and he is living with her in her house. She has told me he has given up his job in Greece and left his family to come over here because he loves her! She has also said she is not going to dump him because he has done this for her, when I asked her if he had put a ring on her finger she said that we have only been together for five weeks and she did not know if she loved him or not. I have told her on numrious accounts that I love her from the bottom of my heart and that I want to marry her, she said if you only asked me that a year ago I would have said a big YES. If she had come back off holiday I was going to propose to her anyway, shame she could not have wated a week really. She sent me a text yesterday saying she dosent want me to text her enymore as the emotional stress is getting to much and is effecting her so she dose not want me to contact her again. She also wished me luck with everything I do. As you can imagin this is the worst news I could have had as I am shure that this Greek fellow is not going to go home even if she was to ask him, so still my mind is in a compleat fix and the emotions are running wild. I supose I should have asked her sometime ago and I wouldnt be in this situation, hindsight is a wonderful thin

sorry if all this bores you but I just need to get it out of my system and this seems the only way I can do it.

Many thanks for your ears and thanks for all the relpys you have made it dose help

 

Humbly

 

Allan

{{ big hugs }}

 

Bloody greeks :rolleyes:

 

Jokes aside, maybe its time to focus on yourself now, go out have fun and try enjoy life.... I know it will be hard, but time heals and hopefully you will find Miss right and you will find happiness again.

 

x

I know we do not know each other, and its not nice to tell or hear from strangers things we don't like, but as you posted ill give my view.

 

i really feel for you, but unless you stand up for yourself and give yourself a bit of respect, how can you expect any woman to give it to you ?

 

this woman has hurt you, not once but twice with other men, and you still beg her to come home and marry you.

 

Your showing a weakness that women just do not like in a man my friend.

 

after the first time, you should have walked away and never spoken to her again, and saved this heart ache now.

 

Do yourself a favor grantpa, and delete her number from your phone, NEVER phone, text or speak to her again, EVEN if she contacts you.

 

in a few weeks/months, you will feel much better and may even meet a woman who will respect you.

 

But you really need to stop with the begging of this woman to come home, she is a tart and you need to be a man mate and demand you get treated better than this, and this woman has proved she cant / wont treat you with such.

 

she cant leave a man she met a few days ago, yet she can leave you after how long? why do you think that is? maybe just maybe, because she knows with you, that you will still be there and take her crap, as for the greek, she is not sure if he would forget her if she did, so she hurts the easy guy mate

There ya' go,she doesn't want you!-draw a line bud,enjoy your own time!

Sounds hard but the alternatives I don't want to go into! ;)

My heart goes out to you bud , but had you asked and been married to her earlier would that have made any difference to her ? after all it's just a piece of paper..

If she loved you it wouldn't of even crossed her mind to even look at another bloke..

We all get bored in life and when someone shows you affection it's flattering...BUT wait until the novelty value wears off and believe me it will...

I know it doesn't make it any easier for you but she has probably done you a favour..

Move forward and don't look back, it's no good living in the past as it stops you moving forward...

Life has a strange way of working out, just take it one day at a time.

Best wishes Dave

I think hedgehogz hit the nail on the head allan, you've wasted

enough time on her, she knows how you feel, leave it at that.

Stop making excuses for her & get on with your own life.

Hold your head up high & walk away from her, she'll probably do the

same to him anyway!

At the end of the day, we can only offer you advice, it's up to you

what you do, and i wish you all the best with whatever you choose

to do.

Cheerz....simon

Allan the best way to deal with imo (well what I'd do anyway) is go round there and bop the fat greek **** in the face and go out on the lash and get slutting around!!!! lol

 

Ivan

As people have said just focus on yourself now bud and it will pass!

i know it sounds daft bud but she,s done you a big favour for being up-front,at least you know thats it and just put it to bed mate because you,ve just been given a new licence to "live" :duffer: now get out there and start looking for a young lady that wont stab you in the back (they are out there) :)

I cant understand the irational thought that took place to bring a man back from a holiday romance!!! after only 2 weeks!!!

I cant understand the irational thought that took place to bring a man back from a holiday romance!!! after only 2 weeks!!!

 

 

Stop punishing yourself mate...your never going to understand the way she thinks... all i can say she isn't thinking of you in all of this...

 

Hand on heart you know when things are over.... don't let it bring you down any more than it already has

I cant understand the irational thought that took place to bring a man back from a holiday romance!!! after only 2 weeks!!!

 

Because she's shallow, and probably a bit of a blonde.

 

Can she really believe this "greek" wants to spend the rest of his life with her?

 

He's after a green card, and she's just green.

 

It obviously wasn't meant to be between the two of you. If it was, this wouldn't have happened.

 

Do yourself a favour, and when the fan gets the poo, she'll come running back to you, tell her to go **** herself, then go get pished and shagged.

 

Relationships suck mate, but eventually you will find your match, I did, and even the fact that she drives a Ford doesn't put me off.

I cant understand the irational thought that took place to bring a man back from a holiday romance!!! after only 2 weeks!!!

women are like that mate :( we fvk em and leave them there,stupid women want to bring em home and parade them like new fvkin nett curtains :xxx: i dont know your ex mate but even i wish she has the clap :rofl: :rofl: here ave a couple of these :duffer: :duffer:

Because she's shallow, and probably a bit of a blonde.

 

Can she really believe this "greek" wants to spend the rest of his life with her?

 

He's after a green card, and she's just green.

 

It obviously wasn't meant to be between the two of you. If it was, this wouldn't have happened.

 

Do yourself a favour, and when the fan gets the poo, she'll come running back to you, tell her to go **** herself, then go get pished and shagged.

 

Relationships suck mate, but eventually you will find your match, I did, and even the fact that she drives a Ford doesn't put me off.

 

Sorry to hear this mate but this says it all. If it was meant to be you would have proposed a long time ago. In your heart of hearts you obviously realised she wasn't the one otherwise you would be happily married by now.

 

Move on mate, if it dosen't kill us it makes us stronger. You will find the right one, and you will know that she is the right one.

 

I know it is hard but you need to let bye gones be bye gones and move on.

 

Hope you feel better soon.

 

Darrell

why beat the greek up ? he did nothing wrong,. her fault not his as far as i can see

ive been in a very similar situation and nearly lost all my friends and family over it, i got told rom one of my best mates that i was being an stupid coont, the words were harsh but worked

 

"leave that horrible bitch, she doesnt love you and only wants you for certain securities in life when she is feeling low, the slag only wants you when she feels she is at a low and has no respect for you whatsoever, if you carry on with this woman you will lose me and all your best friends and family as they can see the hurt you are going through, do yourself a favour mate, give yourself a shake and forget that rotten b4st4rd"

 

this is what i got told, and actually recieved a slap along with it so i wouldnt forget the words, it took a few weeks but it finally sunk in and my mate was right, i never loked back and have a toppa girlfriend

 

a saying that also sticks in m mind is that "you step over shit, not in it"

 

hope these words will help you bud, you ae better off without her

why beat the greek up ? he did nothing wrong,. her fault not his as far as i can see

 

 

i have to disagree slightly. as for going round and slotting him one right on the kisser, someone should. dont forget, apparently HE HAS LEFT HIS OWN FAMILY for the same reasons, a bit of skirt.

 

alan, do yourself a favour. let her make her own mistakes and dont get involved anymore as it will never work out if shes done this to you. you have a stunning car there which i think deserves your time now. get to some meets and enjoy yourself.

women are like that are they ? of course men would never do anything like that would they ? guys are always the injured party !!

 

 

both men and women do this all the time, i am sorry she has done it to you hunni........but none of us can help who we fall in love with.............it is life, now it is time to live yours and make the most of it, and it takes 2 to tango.........so grieve for what you had, but at least she was honest with you. remember the good times, you will have more of them in the future.

 

good luck and lots of love

 

Wendy

Mate, I couldn’t agree with all the above advice more.

Chased my ex of 11 years for 4 months before I realised I was getting nowhere.

Started getting my life back together and SHE comes chasing me. Said she had made a mistake and realised how she felt about me. Nearly fell for it after sleeping with her quite a few more times, lol. Then it dawned on me, if she had done it once would she do it again, and was I prepared to go through all that again ?

So I said no and ended what was happening. That was 7 years ago and I haven’t looked back since. Leave her behind mate, move on and party. And spend as much money on the zed as you like without anybody giving you earache about it.

 

Fill

Time to move forward mate,and please don`t go putting any blame on yourself,i know what you`re going through and how it can mess your head up if you let it,imho there`s no right or wrong way,just experience,learn from it, grow from it and enjoy the better future it will bring! pip pip old boy :)

.....begone devil woman.....

 

But seriously.............pick yourself up......dust yourself off...... and start all over again.

You'll only feel the way you do for a little while, then you can move on.

and in no way blame yourself for not proposing a year ago, it would have been worse now as you would have been married and do you think that would have stopped her doing this to you? Sorry bud, you're in no way to blame cos she decided to meet someone on holiday, you've done nothing wrong here :( And she'll be back to square one cos what sort of bloke leaves his family cos he met someone who was on holiday!!

 

As everyone has said, time to take a stand and look after yourself, I don't know you but you deserve better than to be treated like that.

 

Take care :)

yor probally best out of it. Hope you start feeling better soon

 

Leight

Allan. I am very happy in my life and my wife is great and we are very much in love. MY POINT: I was in exactly the same position as you mate. My ex wife and I got back together after a year apart. It felt like I had won the pools. We bought a house in Licolnshire and things seemed like they couldn't be better. After about 3 months of this life of bliss I found out that she was seeing another bloke whom she had met on a training course. I begged her to give it up with him and like you felt the bottom had fallen out of my life. She refused to give him up he was younger and had a decent job (i was out of work). I wont go into what happened next but I kept chasing and chasing and we did split up eventually. I know what you are going through. BUT! you can get it all back for yourself mate. Let her go and live your life for you. You only get one go so dont let someone else ruin that go for you. I found love again and so will you. Dont hunt it out because it wont be right. let it come to you and believe me it will.

I hope you can be strong enough to follow everyones advise and let her go. You will feel 10 times better for doing so. She has no real love for you and that being the case after all this time she never will have or really has had. You are just a toy that she plays with when she wants. If you did get back with her she will only do it again and you will be right back at this point again. Suffer the concequences now and have no more of it. get back with her and you will have to suffer it all again.

 

HTH.....Good luck buddy.

 

vini