guys and girls ..........got home from kazakhstan so looking forward to seeing the kids and wife after 5 weeks ........to be told she wants to seperate, she has taken the kids is forcing me to sell the family , i have to find 150 grand for the privilage .........this is so out of the blue i am still in shock .....tried my damndest to save the marriage for the remaining 3 weeks i was home ..she was immovable and had decided months ago she wanted out she just didnt tell me .............only 3 months ago i extended and carried out a loft conversion costing over 60 grand .......she knew then , but allowed me to go deeper into debt .........i am so gutted and feel i have let certain people down on here , Namely Smithy , danny Zatt Andy duff and Bazza who i had planned over months to get parts from and do the rebuild i wanted to do on my zed..........now i simply cant afford it i am so sorry guys i dont know what to say to you ..you must think im a right C**t..........maybe thats what mywife thinks also .......she justsays she doesnt love me any more and feels empty , cant stand me to touch her etc .......when i was home she kept taking the kids away to the caravan and insisting i stay at home alone , couldnt even call them as teh reception is so bad there ........now i am 4000 miles away totaly alone and have no hope of ever doing the things i had planned as a family ever again i am 47 so the mere thought of starting again now is filling me with dread ........i feel suicidal and if i had the balls i would end it right now ..........but i dont i have every emotion in the world running throughmy mind i cant sleep , i cant eat i cant think straight ..........you guys are the only link i have with anybody my family ties were severed years ago when i met and maried my wife they never saw eye to eye and i choose my life with her ...............now i have nobody sorry people i know its not your problem just wanted to get it off my chest .............. :cry: :cry:

kin ell mate.... im speechless! i feel for ya chap, i hope you straighten yourself out :(

feck - thats awful - just remember you've got mates on here - i know this is no consolation at the moment because you must be going through hell but you will get through it

 

kindest regards,

 

alex

Sorry to hear this hun. I cant begin to imagine what you must be going through.... If you ever need to rant and rave you have us lot.

 

I hope you manage to get things sorted one way or another.

 

Be strong & {big hugs}

sorry to hear that steve my dad recently went through the same sort of thing well a year ago now with his girlfriend of 25 years. now in his 50's he has a zed and a girlfriend in her 20's goes clubbing and is living life to the Max. Your kids will get older and make there own decisions to see you and you will have your separate families. Chin up mate because women are a funny lot and sometimes make the wrong decisions so let her have her head and don't chase her and wait and see !

 

all the best Paul

chin up bud, i see people living in my bedsits going through this all the time, they get through it and lead a normal happy life, i always find salvation in that people have gone through the same thing and come out ok, im sure you will find your path in life and walk it well, dont even contemplate suicide, its not the only option even if it does feel like it now

 

just try and keep your mind off things and find something to do, even if its bury your head in work while you are away

 

all the best

Allan

Ah dude I can't image the pain you must be in but it has brought a tear to my eye. I hope you can draw some support from the people here and I'm sure the guys involved in your car rebuild won't think any less of you.

 

They say every cloud has a silver lining and maybe this is an opportunity for you to rebuild your family ties. Under the circumstances you would imagine they would be supportive regardless of what water has passed under the bridge.

 

Apologies for all the idioms. I actually took 3 out. All the best Steve, hang on in there.

 

Jonno.

^^^^ what jonno said mate^^^^ absolutely spot on, especially about getting closer to your family.

 

keep your chin up and always look on the bright side of life as monty python said

 

ps see my sig for my thoughts on women in general and my ex in particular

Gutted to hear this - brought back some memories for me when I went through it all 7 years ago. I know it sounds like an old cliche but you WILL get through this and you WILL move on and rebuild your life.

 

Your kids will always know that you are their father and they will always love you for that. Be strong for them and yourself and you know where we are - use the PM system if you want - there's plenty of good people on here with a sympathetic ear.

don't bottle it up buddy, if you need a talk we will be here for ya , take care.

really feel for you, i am in a similar situation atm only my kids are adults, having to raise a mortage etc at this stage of my life, to buy my other half out, i have really black days as well where they seems no poiont in going on, but then i think of my kids and pull myself together again, as other people have said it will get better, but while your in it its very hard to see light at the end of the tunnel, take care

Shit :( So sorry to hear that Steve! I'm really lost for words but echo what has been said above. Don't worry you haven't let me down at all! If you ever need a chat you have my email address or phone number. Times can be hard but you'll pull through it.

 

Take care bud and please don't feel you've let me down because you certainly haven't.

 

Cheers,

 

Andy

Steve, so sorry to hear about whats happened. Dont worry about the parts, I totally understand, I dont feel let down at all and Im sure the others wont mind one bit.

 

It does get easier, when split with my ex after 9 yrs together. I felt very similiar, also shortly followed by my nans death (who was like a mum to me), then also found out I was loosing my job just after getting the 2nd mortgage to pay the ex off.

 

It does get better, try and do some of things youve always wanted to do, but couldnt because of family, doesnt have to be expensive. One of mine was to get the 300.

 

If you need to chat, feel free to pm me anytime.

 

Barry

Really sorry to hear that mate :(

 

I hope things work out for you soon.

 

ATB

 

Richard

dont know what to say ..........you lot are like a family .......some of your comments really touched me .........cant stay on the forum too long at work , just to let you all know a big big thank you is meant by me to you all will try and log back on in a few days ...........thanks again

 

steve

I'm gutted for you Steve. I'm just starting going through the Divorce thing myself and having to make dicisions I never wanted to make as well. You'll get through it and things will get better. + You have to hold it all together because your kids will need you Buddy.

feel for ya mate, i've been there and it's shite to say the least!

Completely out of your hands, nothing you can do, it's a horrible

feeling.

Just make sure your kids grow up knowing why they're parents

aren't together, and who's decision it was for you to split, being a

female, she'll turn it all around and blame it on you.

The reason my ex gave in the courts was that 'he went to work every day!!'

Oh, and the fact i'm 3 mths pregnant with someone else's kid, who

incidently was in prison. TBH, i had a lucky escape, it was a blessing

in disguise, she (ex) is well fooked up now, just been had for screaming

rape, got a 12mth susp sentance. If i was still with her, i'd have nothing, no

car, no bikes, no money etc, just a big debt.

Our 17yr old daughter is on my side of the fence, she made her own mind

up regarding her mum a long time ago.

Life does move on, and it will be for the better, i've got another daughter now (4yrs), new woman, a much better life etc etc...

Just hang on in there mate, and for gods sake....

Just don't do anything stupid! Not over a woman, they ain't worth it.

feel for you steve, hope things get easier and they will!!

 

be strong, and be positive for the children. There the main thought now!

 

take care mate

greg

feel for ya mate, i've been there and it's shite to say the least!

Completely out of your hands, nothing you can do, it's a horrible

feeling.

Just make sure your kids grow up knowing why they're parents

aren't together, and who's decision it was for you to split, being a

female, she'll turn it all around and blame it on you.

The reason my ex gave in the courts was that 'he went to work every day!!'

Oh, and the fact i'm 3 mths pregnant with someone else's kid, who

incidently was in prison. TBH, i had a lucky escape, it was a blessing

in disguise, she (ex) is well fooked up now, just been had for screaming

rape, got a 12mth susp sentance. If i was still with her, i'd have nothing, no

car, no bikes, no money etc, just a big debt.

Our 17yr old daughter is on my side of the fence, she made her own mind

up regarding her mum a long time ago.

Life does move on, and it will be for the better, i've got another daughter now (4yrs), new woman, a much better life etc etc...

Just hang on in there mate, and for gods sake....

Just don't do anything stupid! Not over a woman, they ain't worth it.

 

as the man says things will get easier in time.

 

i dont think there is one person on here thats not been threw all this and that includes me.

 

i have found a great women after yrs of looking and im the happiest ive ever been.

 

the moral to this is stay strong and u will provail TRUST ME :)

 

 

 

 

CHEERS GARRY

Keep your chin up mate and remember i think everyone on here will agree we will always be you family :) Things happen for a reason mate. I had the same sort of thing happen to me and after 2 years of being single and not looking for love i met a girl called Sarah. She swept me off my feet we got married and things could never be better than they are now! As for the kids mate you will always be there father and nothing can ever change that! The thing with kids is they always come back to haunt you :rofl: If you need to chat or want somone to NAG you we are all here and will do our best to help.

 

Matt

mate like everyone on here we feel for ya ive been there done that and got the t shirt but remember when 1 door closes another will open i know you dont see it now but you will bounce back and when you do you will be a stronger person....thoughts goin out to you bud take care

matty

jez mate, fell sory for ya, and if I was about we would be getting royaly hammerd, But dont wory, things will turn about fast. Get your self a good lawyer, quickly, I bet shes already seen one and planned how to take your life away. And remember, no matter how hard it is to see, there are people far worse of than you right now. They drive Mitzi GTO's:)

Kepp ya head down, get back, and come have a beer with the zed family

Just read this matey, i know you went through a few things a few months ago, i guess this has popped its head up again so to speak :(

 

Keep you chin up bud, you know where i am, when you get home you only have to pop round for a chat and a beer matey anytime :)

 

If you dont know my new address give me a bell as my numbers are still the same.

 

Speak soon

Mike

so sorry to hear this fella, were always here for you, this is a great forum lot of friends here ( see above) dont bottle it in speak out matey, pm me anytime for a chat.

I got that T Shirt 12 years ago. I am now very happy with my life now. Chin up bud it will take time but things do get better trust me. All the best bud.