As some of you know that i work offshore and work a three week rotation. Today in my ninth day out of twenty one i was contacted through messenger telling me that my mum , our mum has suddenly died this morning.i now not only am feelibg devisdated about this but cant tell anyone at work cas if they found out they would get a chopper out and send me straht home.trouble is i only get two days breavment pay so i would stand t loose half my wages for six weeks and cant afford to.cas bills need paying and im nearly skint after my ladt purchase.so u see i have to stay here and hope i can do.what i do.some people who have aready asked me if im ok .and ive just said got a really bad head.whats also hurting is my miss indoors is in tears but understands and supports me and my decesion.but that ant help me feeling double like shit cas shes says she cant confort or help me. Life is so hard somtimes and u wish.oh i dont know.just feeling a bit num and a grown man keep weeling up. Ant a good look .sorry to make you feel sad but i just needed to share and tell somone cas its eating me up and you guys are my vitaul freinds on here.so sorry.but thanks for your time.and thanks. RIp my mum. Love , number two son Alan.

so so sorry to read this bud, can't imagine how you must be feeling, but I'm sure I'm right when I say everyone on here is here for you if you need to unload your head.

 

Vijay

So sorry to hear this. Condolences from me and Jan

 

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Sorry to hear this Alan it's very sad. I finish my rotation in a few days and will be back to Norwich for a bit so if you need anything taken care of let me know bud. Chin up

Sorry to hear dude. Sad news.

I'm really sorry to read this mate, my thoughts go with you and your family

Our thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

thank you very very much for your kind words and caring thoughts, it means alot to me and as i sit here reading these kind messeages the tears roll, the eyes sting, but soon with time i and my family and anyone who new my mum, will in time be able to thank her for being there and touching there lives one way of another. My mum wasnt perfect nor are any of us, and years ago when i found out a secret that was kept from me and my brothers, in the anger of feeling let down, by the last standing parent i had. choose not to speak to my mum, dont know why ,maybe my kind of distachment and petty dislike to a very hard decesion that when she was very young chose to make. for sixteen years i never spoke to my mum. then one day after very nearly loosing my now partner whilst having somthing going teribly wrong whist tacken into hospital a month early with my unborn son, and very nearly loosing my son, that was in hospital now born with complications with brain damage .and may not never survive, i told my self ,that life is indeed to short. and although we have to make choices and make decesions in life. they might not suite all. and as it happens all my mum was trying to do when so young was trying to protect us boys. some five years ago just after my son survived i contacted my mum with a letter telling her the reasons why i felt angry, but since had grown up and seen deyound the fog that clouded my judgment. my mum and i stayed in touch and i went to see and stay with her, and she visited us from time to time and we made pieace again. we were back as a family unit once more, noyhing was said when we met for that first time after all them years but the hugs and tears said enough. im glad i see through what i thought was one of the hardest pills to swollow in life but i relised that indeed life is to short. we all do dirrerent things and make diiferent choices in life. life is a lesson to us all and as we get older we most get wiser. apart from my spelling and grammer that is. so my message is simple people. live and let live, and. to love a little is better,than to not love at all. thanks for listning and once again thanks for all your surport. each and evey comment has been a tonic. Now to wait then soon i will celibrate her life with family and friends and from there i suppose carry on talking to her like i have done to my father for the past nearly 25 years. THANKS.

Well said Spin. Take care on that Rig and get home safe to say your goodbye's.