Hi all.

 

Going through a bit of a rough time at the mo. Me and the wife have decided to split and get a divorce. We have one son and one on the way.

 

Anyone on here been through it and can offer me any advice? What's the best thing to do and to stay positive?

 

Dreading telling my folks too.

Really sorry to hear this mate, you seemed a sound couple at Zedfest. I split with my first wife, then after we found out she was pregnant with twins. we discussed getting back together, but agreed it would accomplish nothing.

So we remained split. I supported her 100% though the pregnancy and went to all the hospital/midwife appointments with her. when they were born, I did all I could to support her, I did the night feeds on weekends etc, and took them out for walks in the pram, to give her some time to relax for an hour or 2.

All you can do mate, is just be there to help and support here, if and when she needs it.

 

Regards

 

Kim

Hey matey, keep your chin up - you have my number if you ever want to let off some steam.

i got 3 kids from my previous relationship that live with me full time and i have never been so happy so chin up it does get better mate !

Oh, and if you can reach a mutual decision about maintenance then do! because if the CSA get there claws into you mate, your life will be totally miserable. sorry, but take it from someone who knows. :mad:

yeah they have no mercy !!!!

Sorry to hear this bud

Sorry to hear this bud,as kim says try to avoid any csa involment if possible,they get first dibs in the wage packet each month.

Its always a shame to hear this. The main thing is to stay as friendly as you possibly can mate. OK it might not be easy because you are splitting but my ex wife and I did our best to stay as friendly as we could. Not only for the children but for ourselves as well.

 

Good luck mate and dont be affraid to talk to each other. If its a 50/50 descision then it shouldn't be too hard.

 

vini

Been through this, my son was 3 when me and the ex split up and divorced. As Kim says sort out maintenance between you if you can as well as access as it will make life easier later on. We agreed on both and had it written into the divorce so it was made legally binding. You will have your ups and downs and will fall out but try to avoid big arguements by walking away to cool off as arguements about kids make them highly emmotional and never infront of the child if possible. It does get easier as time goes on.

Something I never want, wife or kids, so I don't know how you feel and probably never will. Pretty shattered and weary I'd imagine. Hope things sort themselves out for the best though. :duffer:

Mate, on my 3rd wife LOL. Life gets better. When i split from my last wife who has my son, i was finished!! I agreed a sum of money each month and we agreed to disagree. We get on good. Just stay cool and stay in touch. Its your kiddy that matters. Its so sad to hear about these things. Keep happy, positive, and never get angry. It don't work (then again what do i know. Im on number 3 ffs) !!!!

Thanks guys for your support and comments. Just struggling through day to day at the mo tbh.

Sorry to here that bud like everone says, try to stay freinds its got to be easyer in the long run, when my last relationship had run its corse we split up.everything was done without to much agro,and as for the devorce try to get everything sorted out first,the more outside interfaerence will result in more trouble, in the end i done the devorse myself and never once did we see a money exploiting solicitor,i done everything myself and whole process cost me approx 350 quid.Online and only went down the cout twice to get whittness statements signed and sworn and didnt cost a penny, good luck and if you need info then emial me, ill point you in the right direction. sinclair26@btinternet.com

Edited September 19, 200817 yr by KIM

like some of the others have said

 

if the csa get involved do yourself a BIG favour and leave the country.

or go self employed