me and my good lady might be splitting up ater 6 years, we have a son together who we love very much but i think the time has come where she has had enough of me and vice versa, i'll have nowhere to live and she will move back to her ma's which is gonna be about 25 miles away, i can bearly afford to get to work so i'm never gonna see my son, a second job is out of the question as i'm knackerd now so another job will kill me.

 

i love her more than anything in the world and she knows i do but like i said i din't think we can carry on like this, i come in from work and she goes out to work so we never see eachother, has anyone else been in this situation who can give me some advice

 

Regards, Chris :cry:

i must say also, that when my missus left i got myself into a bit of a mess, i would like to thank andy, saz & lisa for being there for me when i needed someone to talk to, kept me sane. its not easy spending half your life with someone, then it be taken away, if you get what i mean.

 

 

No probs mate, glad I could help:)

could not agree with you more there rich. when me & kaz talked, i did ask her if the car, and what i was spending on it was an issue, & she said no. i did say to her that if it was, then i would sell it without any hesitation, but she said, dont you dare sell it.

 

if you sold that motor (i'd) kill ya Paul :rofl:

cheers lisa i'll probably be on msn tonight so i could do with a few familiar faces and a cheer up session :)

 

I'll be on there for ya mate:)

its all been said bud, you need more time together

Sorry to hear the situ mate, it sounds you guys need to make time for each other, book a short break away and have somoene look after the little one if possible.

Be open with each other ifs its worth fighting for then do it. Only you two will know the answer to that.

If it cant be worked out, no matter what make sure kiddie is aware of the situation, it does work out,

I found out my wife have been having a bit on the side with a mate of mine after 10 years of marriage. Hated her at the time, as i lost everything to her but time is a healer and ive always seen my kids,

Try and sort it out. Hope it all works out foir you.

Stu

cheers Stu, i just wanna say a big thanks to everyone for the kind words its been great to talk to someone about it, i'll be having a chat with her about the whole situation tommorrow, the way she put it to me is that i'm being selfish cos i wnge when she goes to work all the time but at the same time i say shes being selfish cos me and Bradley never get to see her but until she finishes her nursing course next september its gonna be the sacrifice we have to make just to get by with the money situation,,,,, like i say i'll keep you all posted and thanks again everyone

 

Regards, Chris.

Chris, i feel for you matey i really do,

 

my girlfriend is also a trainee nurse and the hours she does is absolutley rediculous, you wont belive how much they have to work, she also works as a caerer so works a 12 hour shift straight into another overnite shift and back to work next day, the feeling of never getting any quality time together really does put a strain on the relationship, i try so hard to ask her for some time off together but her rosta is so rediculous, i always try me best to be there for her but have argued a lot about the time we dont spend together, she doesnt live with me so i dont see her as often as i could, all i can do is try to understand and just be there for her & support her best i can, but its the time appart that really hurts, communication is the thing you have to talk things through try to come to a comprimise maybe just a couple of days a month where its just the 2 of you enjoying eachothers company i know its hard chris i feel the same hope things work out for you matey. dewi.

yep its exactly the same Dewi, we're gonna have a chat tommorrow and thats what i'm gonna suggest

So sorry to hear this mate :(

well i'm off home in 1/2 an hour to find out what shes gonna say, do i stay or do i go, we will find out soon and i'll let you all know, again thanks for the support guys.

well i'm off home in 1/2 an hour to find out what shes gonna say, do i stay or do i go, we will find out soon and i'll let you all know, again thanks for the support guys.

 

Good luck Chris:)

well, after a long discussion we have decided to give it a go, one of the main things we spoke about is to give eachother space but spend quality time together, just me Andrea and Bradley, we've arranged a night out next saturday so we can go and have a bit of fun together.

meanwhile i have to stop whinging about all the hours she is doing at work and she has to stop doing so many hours, i know these 2 things clash with eachother but i sat and worked it out with her and she worked 70 hours last week and that was all on night shift.

 

Hopefuly this is it now and all is forgotten but time will tell, thanks for all the advice and tips, you guys should be marraige guidence councillours :rofl:

i'm off to bed soon by myself cos yep ,,, you guessed it ,,, shes at work :rolleyes:

well, after a long discussion we have decided to give it a go, one of the main things we spoke about is to give eachother space but spend quality time together, just me Andrea and Bradley, we've arranged a night out next saturday so we can go and have a bit of fun together.

meanwhile i have to stop whinging about all the hours she is doing at work and she has to stop doing so many hours, i know these 2 things clash with eachother but i sat and worked it out with her and she worked 70 hours last week and that was all on night shift.

 

Hopefuly this is it now and all is forgotten but time will tell, thanks for all the advice and tips, you guys should be marraige guidence councillours :rofl:

i'm off to bed soon by myself cos yep ,,, you guessed it ,,, shes at work :rolleyes:

 

 

Good to hear that chris....hope it all works out for you both bud.

Good to hear that chris....hope it all works out for you both bud.

 

cheers Paul, i'm sure we'll be fine ;)

Ideal mate, 70 hrs work would kill me...tell her to give herself a break and enjoy some good relaxing time with you. Glad your back on track tho:)

cheers lisa, it was fun chatting with you last night, just what i needed lol

Thats great news Chris :D However:

 

.....meanwhile i have to stop whinging about all the hours she is doing at work.....

 

....i'm off to bed soon by myself cos yep ,,, you guessed it ,,, shes at work :rolleyes:

 

Not really a good start is it :rofl: ;)

Good luck mate, hope everything turns out ok for you both.

im glad you sorted things mate i went through the not sure if you remember my post, maybe posting here does give you goodluck.

 

my problem was the same, not spending enough time, we talked and made up( isnt this the best part sometimes?) now i spend a bit too much time i think lol. any way hope things go well and ty to sped and much time and effort with her as you can its my last chance so im gonna be good for now lol.

 

 

any way im glad for you. enjoy your time with her next week.

Thats great news Chris :D However:

 

 

 

Not really a good start is it :rofl: ;)

pmsl Andy, shess not workin today but shes in bed so i've had some quality time with Bradley, been to the park and fed the ducks, i even went on the slide :rofl:

Good luck mate, hope everything turns out ok for you both.

cheers Paul :)

im glad you sorted things mate i went through the not sure if you remember my post, maybe posting here does give you goodluck.

 

my problem was the same, not spending enough time, we talked and made up( isnt this the best part sometimes?) now i spend a bit too much time i think lol. any way hope things go well and ty to sped and much time and effort with her as you can its my last chance so im gonna be good for now lol.

 

 

any way im glad for you. enjoy your time with her next week.

 

i do remember your thread mate, glad you got sorted too :)

I feel for you both bud. BUT! TBH if you both love each other like you say then giving up that love should not be an option. I earn quite a lot of money at my job and if I do a couple more shifts each week I can almost double my weekly wage to over £900. I wont do so though because my family is the most important thing in my life and I will NOT sacrifice the time with them for the sake of more money. So you have got to get your priorities sorted out the pair of you and work out what is more important. You can get another job almost anywhere but you wont find LOVE as easy.

 

Good luck mate. :)

i know exactly what your saying Vini, i mean we do need the money but i'd rather struggle and see her more often

...i even went on the slide :rofl:

 

I feel for the poor slide :tongue: :rofl:

I feel for the poor slide :tongue: :rofl:

 

cheeky t**t, my arse aint that big :rofl:

yo snowy been there myself a long time ago but after nearly 26 years of marriage I must have done something right and made a good descision.Im really happy for you all just dont take things for granted and you'll be ok