went away for a gaming weekend with some of the lads this weekend, bear in mind that im 110 miles from home

 

anyway the missus has been REALLY down last couple of weeks. been on the sick due to stress.

 

she went doctors 2day and was fine when she went, they have now put her on antidipresants.

 

she has now phoned me up demanding me to get back to see her, only been gone for 1 day....

 

its about 2 hour drive + i have to pack my kit up, was sopposed to be here till sunday, dont know what to do any more with here, everythign i do is wrong.

 

do i stay or go?

 

help!

Best thing you can do is be supportive mate. I've been through chronic depression and was ill for about 2 years on quite strong medication (lots of will power and support from family and friends saw me through). So know too well what it's like. If she needs you there, then she really does need you there regardless of what mood she's in. You're only at a gaming event, your other half should be your priority (not ment to sound harsh).

 

BTW, why's this in Z club discussions?

fook thats a heavy question, you gotta realise if she been depressed your not gonna do anything right coz at the no she not in the position to be rational every little thing seems twice as bad when your depressed. Dont do anything in haste yet see how the medication works for her, you might find she will be totally different, then find out where the root of the problem lies with her depression once you can talk rationaly to each other

you aint gonna get it right whatever you do , be prepared for this but do not react to it as depression affects judgement decissions, just be there to offer UNCONDITIONAL support and realise it wont always be like this

fook thats a heavy question, you gotta realise if she been depressed your not gonna do anything right coz at the no she not in the position to be rational every little thing seems twice as bad when your depressed. Dont do anything in haste yet see how the medication works for her, you might find she will be totally different, then find out where the root of the problem lies with her depression once you can talk rationaly to each other

 

Unfortunately, medication takes quite a bit of time to kick in. It's not imediate. Took me a good month or two before I started to feel more calm and relaxed.

ive told her ill phone her when she has calmed down a bit, she was fine before she went then it kicked off when they said she need them........

Unfortunately, medication takes quite a bit of time to kick in. It's not imediate. Took me a good month or two before I started to feel more calm and relaxed.

 

i know i been there too about 10 years ago its a horrible feeling when you think everyone and everything is against you

Cool...but the dude's asking if he should go back now though. ;)

Cool...but the dude's asking if he should go back now though. ;)

 

personally i think yes

Can you talk to her on the phone and calm her down. Tell her of course you're happy to come back.

Ask what's wrong - just try and sooth her.

She needs to know you're there for her no matter what.

 

After a bit of a relaxing chat she may be ok and you can stay - let her know if she changes her mind you'll come straight back.

 

But if she really wants you to go to her now, maybe you should.

 

Have some experience of these things from two family members - I'm no expert but I know what it can be like. It can be tough for a while but these things almost always work themselves out.

ps - if you do go, don't be cross with her - it can be hard but you've got to be totaly supportive.

 

Also when you have time, get a second opinion regarding the tablets if you can.

go home as she needs you there - even if you think she's not thinking rationally she still needs your support

hi mark , would have to say only you can make that desicion , if it helps i would drive a thousand miles if my wife called me and needed me , tbh its all releivant to your own situation ,if you love her i would go no qestion ! hth!

ive told her ill phone her when she has calmed down a bit, she was fine before she went then it kicked off when they said she need them........

 

 

would say to the above she wasnt expecting them to tell her that , she needs comforting bud

i have spoken to her and the only reason that she has got upset was the fact that they gave them to her.

 

she seems better now she has calmed down

 

thanks for that paul, has been a while since we chatted :)

ive told her ill phone her when she has calmed down a bit, she was fine before she went then it kicked off when they said she need them........

I'd bet she's scared now as the doctors told her she needs them specially if she was thinking she was doing okay. Get home she needs you. She'll need a lot of love and assurance from the ones who mean the most to her ie you.

 

All the best to both of you as it's going to be a bumpy ride.

Burn the soles of her feet with a hot crack pipe then lock her in the loft. ;)