Does anyone have a child who lives overseas with an ex?

 

Reason being I have a 4 year old son and my parenter wants to move to america as she met someone while she was out there. We have been debating whether to split or not for ages and I dont have a problem with here moving but she wants to take our son of course. Now that i do have a problem with! I dont want to stop her going if thats what she wants and im fairly sure i could stop her taking him out the country but not sure if i would. Its probably just a "the grass on the other side of the fance is greener" moment and nothing will happen but even so.

 

Anyone got any advice to offer on this?

Does anyone have a child who lives overseas with an ex?

 

Reason being I have a 4 year old son and my parenter wants to move to america as she met someone while she was out there. We have been debating whether to split or not for ages and I dont have a problem with here moving but she wants to take our son of course. Now that i do have a problem with! I dont want to stop her going if thats what she wants and im fairly sure i could stop her taking him out the country but not sure if i would. Its probably just a "the grass on the other side of the fance is greener" moment and nothing will happen but even so.

 

Anyone got any advice to offer on this?

its allways hard to split when theres kids involved (done it tee-shirt jobbie) but you have to put your sensible head on here bud,the kids got a much better chance of being a proper educated and heathy young un iff he goes over the pond :rolleyes: having said that i would first like to meet the potential (stepdad) to establish he is not a weido,then i would insist on as much info as you can get regarding the new home and area over there,and dont forget as the child grows you could see him every nite via "webcam" and get the jist of his happiness :dance: or you could be totally over the top and lose the 2 of em. Allways found common sence and rational thinking to be your best friend. good luck bud

but if i had a genuine reason how difficult would it be to stop her?

but if i had a genuine reason how difficult would it be to stop her?

dont know mate, but i dont think there is a lot you can do iff she is the mother. not saying its right but the "she,s" allways get the edge in these cases. can i ask you whats your reasons for trying to stop her? dont answer iff you dont want

but if i had a genuine reason how difficult would it be to stop her?

 

Firstly, I am not currently in this type of situation nor have I been in the past, so these comments are based purely on my common sense.

 

Speak to a solicitor specialised in family law. You may never have to use the legal information you gain but it is worth speaking to one for your own peace of mind. You'll know where you stand legally and what you can and can not do/expect.

 

As Znut stated - common sense is paramount and the interest/well-being of your son should be the number one priority. Divorce/separation is always hard on kids and if this is the way things are going to go in your situation then you have a lot of work ahead to make sure your son understands the reasons why this is happening and that no matter where he is you are always thinking of him and there for him. At 4 years old I'm not sure how much the lad will understand but you have to approach the situation with as much common sense as possible.

 

So get some legal advise and I've got my fingers crossed for an amicable and workable resolution to the situation.

 

All the best,

 

Dan

i think his reason would be because he doesnt want his son to be thousands of miles away. that would be the obvious reason. i wouldnt want my daughter living in another country

How long has she known the American guy?

 

Steve :)

When my son was born i broke down in tears (probably normal). This was because i relised that there was something in this world that i would give my life for no questions asked and trust me I am very scared of death.

 

Now call me selfish for not wanting him taken away from me but i grew up without my dad and i'm willing to do almost anything so that he doesnt go through that.

 

I do think i have vaild reasons for stopping her which im not going into on here. I do think he would have a better quailty of life here with me, I also know that sometimes its better for his parents to be appart rather than unhappy together. But what if i let him go and something happens? Could I live with myself.

She only just met him and its a case of the grass on the other side on the fence is greener. I when through it myself a while back when i was very attracted to a younger girl and almost left her. When it comes down to it we are not 100% happy and these things will happen.

 

A big part of this is the distance tho, I am entitled to see my son and be his dad, she would be taking that away from me, something i'd be willing to fight for - all the way.

i totally agree with you mate. there is nothing more precious than your children. i would fight tooth and nail to keep my daughter. i would do everything in my power to keep her from taking my daughter away. it would not be fair on your son either

She only just met him and its a case of the grass on the other side on the fence is greener. I when through it myself a while back when i was very attracted to a younger girl and almost left her. When it comes down to it we are not 100% happy and these things will happen.

 

A big part of this is the distance tho, I am entitled to see my son and be his dad, she would be taking that away from me, something i'd be willing to fight for - all the way.

well on that note, goodluck and hope it turns out your way

well i dont think shes going anywhere, but maybe it is time to split

i would say its def time to split. if she wants to go and live with another man then it is. doesnt mean you cant be a father to your son

She only just met him and its a case of the grass on the other side on the fence is greener. I when through it myself a while back when i was very attracted to a younger girl and almost left her. When it comes down to it we are not 100% happy and these things will happen.

 

A big part of this is the distance tho, I am entitled to see my son and be his dad, she would be taking that away from me, something i'd be willing to fight for - all the way.

I'm looking at this from the other a side of the fence bud. My step daughter is 6 and I've been with her mum for 3½ years (married for 1½).

 

I was considering moving abroad a while back, but ended up binning the plan because my step daughter is quite close to her dad. I felt it would be very selfish of me to take her away from him.

 

From what you've said I hope that things work out. To be talking about moving to the US after only a short relationship sounds like a bad idea IMHO.

 

Good luck fella :cool:

 

CheerZ

 

Steve :)

well its swings and roundabouts with us. one of us will have to make a decision at some point