just want peoples honest views on this situation

 

right, was checking my emails and the missus as a couple of bits go to her address, seen that she signed up for friends reunited

 

check the site out and she had emailed sum lad to see if he new this guy

 

anyway, i asked the missus who it was, normal question i thought

 

she went off on one saying it was "non of my buissness, in the past, ill go mad"

 

thought to my self sumthign ant right here, only a question FFS. Asked her about it more and she said that she had wanted to meet up with him to see what he was up to, if he was married etc

 

she then said that she thought he was more attractive then me

 

says she has never been with him, not bothered if she had been, in the past, just the fact that she went all defensive and the fact that she didnt tell me aoubt any of the emails. she also says its ok to have secrets which i disagree with 100%

 

i dont know what to beleive now

 

any ideas?

 

cheers guys

Nah, they're just looking for a way out of the country.

 

MarkGSI, I agree with most of the above. Their is nothing worse than living in doubt. If there is no trust it aint worth it IMO.

 

You've never been to Hungary or Japan Then? also get into the sticks in Romania and the Cetz republic and you'll find a different senario. + The women there have waistes, good figures, nice skin and generally look like women instead of the fat bellied mongers this country has to offer.

 

P.S. Nelson when I was younger (maybe where I come from) You'd shagg birds that had boyfriends or husbands. + You listen sympathetically to there excuses as to why they were after a bit of stange. Just to ease there gilt so you could nail em, but go out with em NO.

 

That's another strategy - they can benefit more from sex with gorilla/good looker for "better" genes, then live with a baby-carer (average-lloking or ugly).

Give it to her straight mate. Tell her if she see's him you and her will have big problems. Sorry you said be honest. Contact him and tell him to piss off and if he see's your wife you will do him. (in no uncetain terms.)

I had a similar problem back in 1990 with my EX. she met someone from her past and they ended up kind of seeing each other on the sly. I got hes number told him I had nothing to loose and was going to kill him. and would do so if he told her. He dumped her like a bad habit, things were never the same again tho' even tho he was gone we ended up divorsed.

 

Be strong mark and stand your ground buddy. you are going to get hurt so make it on your terms mate.

 

Thats the brutal truth mate. I wish you luck. :bow:

some bird must have done a right number on you ?

Do not agree with any of that.

 

But I do think there is a problem if she is having a Pop just for asking the question. :mad:

 

Ok, maybe not most, but over a lifetime if the opportunity arises ? How many relationships last over 10 years, let alone 5 ?

 

Been dumped in the past (nothing long-term), but not "a number" as you call it. I am fairly bitter about women, I must agree. But the society is so biased and they are often so shallow/scheming - self-obsessed baby-machines half of them ! Feminism has told them they can have everyhting men have + babies, and most seem determined to get it at the expense of men.

My wifes looking over my shoulder giveing most of you guys some right verbal abuse LOL

 

but now shes gone.....

.....i agree with alot of what you say, i know from some of my wifes friends that thier so called "hes the one" relationships are at the most very fickle.

 

but, to markgsi i feel for you mate, i know how that feeling of uncertainty feels in a relationship its not nice to say the least, just go with your gut instict mate.

Personally i been through somethin like this before but it was txts, and i knew i shouldn have checked hers but i felt i had to and she went mad but i was right. So i kicked her to the kerb and a couple of months later she came running back sayin she had made such a mistake. All i can say is women are very complicated so dont try to figure it out just do what feels right!!

I am of the mind that once that trust is gone it will never come back. with the same person I mean. you can personally recover and learn to trust again but not with the same person. IMO. obviously.

Yea thats a hard one to get back

have another go bud and try to get her to talkto you ,as for spying its a no no as soon as you do that its over bud ,,been there dunn that got the bloody t shirt bud

your gut feeling will most likely be right.

:x: What he said

This gut feeling could just be wind

have another go bud and try to get her to talkto you ,as for spying its a no no as soon as you do that its over bud ,,been there dunn that got the bloody t shirt bud

 

If I PM you my address can you send me one in XXL. :tongue:

 

Sorry this is serious thread I konw but I couldn't resist. :bow: :duffer:

..................The women there have waistes, good figures, nice skin and generally look like women instead of the fat bellied mongers this country has to offer.

 

Love it :rofl: :rofl:

 

Kinda true though - there are certainly more fat birds out there these days than there were when I was younger........ :tongue:

 

Richard :x:

id definatly get that programme and talk about everything later

That's another strategy - they can benefit more from sex with gorilla/good looker for "better" genes, then live with a baby-carer (average-lloking or ugly).

 

 

I'm with Nelson - it does all come down to biology. Richard Dawkins explained it all in The Selfish Gene. Neo-Darwinism holds the answers.

If i was in your shoes, shes given you the ammunition so take this further, i would get the keylogger and find out a little bit more on the sly! This way you actually have real proof besides the e-mails. If nothing comes of the keylogger youl thank yourself for not getting rid and try and make it work with her. If the keylogger turns up bad stuff kick her out on her face!

lol.. well, i'm gunna disagree with you ALL here... jesus its only a POSSIBLE meeting anyway ffs.. its not like shes doin someone 7 days a week is it... sorry but this is being blown out of all proportion in my opinion...

 

i think shes pissed at u lookin thru her stuff, i know i'd be well annoyed if my missus looked thru my stuff, and we BOTH have access to eoch others email.. its the last thing i'd do..

 

if ur suspicious just wait til something has definitely taken place and walk, dont jeopardise 6 years for your own insecurities mate, its just not worth it...

 

as for him been prettier then u, so what, every cnuts prettier then me, i'm happy with the fact i'm an ugly twat and have no probs with that, beauty comes from within and thats why shes with YOU and not mr pretty boy...

 

just chill mate, the trust has obviously gone tho, which for me is the key issue...

 

hope u sort it out, just imagine how u'd feel if she'd gone thru YOUR stuff..

 

T

cheers for all the advice guys

 

means alot

 

have spoken to her in depth about it all and she assures me that she has never met him, she only wanted to see what he was up to know as a friend. she didnt mean what she said about him being better looking than me, it came out all wrong, said she used to fancy him when she was 14. I think i may have over reacted a bit to her, we are slowly working our way through this

 

thanks again guys, i know that i can count on you guys to give me clear advice, sumthing that is hard to see when ur not thinking right

Nice to see you confronted her amicably mate. Good luck with the future.

:duffer:

I'm with Nelson - it does all come down to biology. Richard Dawkins explained it all in The Selfish Gene. Neo-Darwinism holds the answers.

 

You can say this but it's not just down to Biology, morals come into it. A decent woman won't cheat on you because she knows it's wrong. It all depends on how morally sounds she is. If you meet a bird who has none then expect to get shat on :wack:

Hope you've got it sorted mate :)

 

but...

 

Have to say I agree with everything MarkZX and Nelson said LOL

 

Caught my ex in my bed with a guy when my daughter was 9 months old after being with her about 5 years.

It was all my fault of course!

I was running a business from home and paying us both a wage and 2 company cars.

She kept seeing the guy and thought I was unreasonable when I stopped paying her and sent the company car back! LOL cake and eat it spring to mind!

She moved in with the guy after a few weeks, put our house up for sale without telling me and basically did some proper psycho stuff for months.

When the house sold and I gave her £30K she wanted to come back!

Shame we lost about £15K EACH in legal costs but hey, as she said - money isn't everything is it... LOL

It is when you're paying off about £45K of debt because of her stupidity!

 

Foreign girls are the way to go for sure, i've been out with a few recently and they're so much better in every way.

I've met so many UK girls around my age who've got 2 or 3 kids, often with different fathers and they don't have any loyalty to them, they're just out to get what they can for themselves and move on when the grass looks greener.

Years ago it would have been so unacceptable they wouldn't dare to do it, but now they get given a house, more benefits than the working man and told how well they're doing in the media - No mention of the father who's without his child, left massively in debt or the taxpayers bill.

Younger girls are even worse, most seem to be total slags LOL

 

I've decided to forget all this modern man shit and go back to getting what I want, it's much more fun and girls these days really don't give a shit anyway.

When I was younger if I'd told a girl I wanted a quick **** I'd have got a slap, these days the answer is usually OK :D :rolleyes:

 

Chris.

You wanna send in Jack Bauer from 24 to interrogate her! A bullet to the knee to start the proceedings off and you'll soon get the truth!!