Until i was 18, i had not met my father, or his side of my family.

Upon meeting them all, i instantly took a shine to my uncle, more so than my father.

It seemed that from day one, we were clones of each other.

he moved 200 miles last year, to retire to the seaside even though he is only 57, just 10 miles from home, im now 35

I still, consider this guy to be the closest thing to a natural father i could have.

 

Last night at 2am, he had a fit in his sleep and was rushed into hospital

at 5pm tonight, we were told he has terminal cancer of the brain, liver and chest.

 

to say my world has fallen apart is not even close.

He does not know yet, and we are not sure to tell him or not.

I have just spent an hour writting him a letter, if we do tell him, i want him to read it, and to know what he means to me, if we dont tell him, he will never know.

 

Cancer is a prick, and has no mercy for anyone.

Yesterday, he was happy and gardening, and moaning that us bin men had not collected his bins again.

tonight, he is in a bed, on a drip with a cathetar in place, unaware he may not see christmas.

 

I have no idea why im saying this here, but for a moment anyway, it's helping.

 

Anyone want some words of advice????

 

tell the people who matter, that they matter. because tomorrow maybe too late...it is for me and my uncle

im glad that u are going tell him m8

 

i think that its the best option

 

sumthing that u will be glad u did

 

good luck m8ty :)

Well,

 

He now knows the situation about his illness, nd has taken it better then any of us thought, he's still got a lot of humour, and has even been seen to be shouting out the window up to the sky saying

"fook off, i aint ready yet"

 

I've also spoken with him, and while i didnt get to say all i wanted, i think i said enough that he knows now.

 

Providing the test results are what the doctors hope for, they have agreed to look at the possibility of treatment to prolong his time left, but again, we wont know untill next week.

 

He's gutted today, as they have made it clear, he wont be leaving the hospital for a long time, if at all.

 

Im totally exhausted, ive driven 1000 miles this week, about to do 400 more tomorrow and the hospital is only 25 miles away!!!!!! but a lot of family live in birmingham (where im going tomorow)

ive made the calls to mates and family to explain, and also trying to sort his brother (my dad) a flight, car hire and accomodation so he can come from germany.

 

Thank you for all the e mails, pm's and text's from friends and people ive never met, it really does help immensly, as anyone who has been here will vouch for.

 

They say these things change a man, and never thought about it untill this week, iv'e changed hugely in a few days, and i guess its thanks to my uncle again

 

ive also had a chuffing head ache for 4 days now, which is getting on my tits

 

thanks again guys, and anyone who thinks this club is not worth being in, think again. without it, i would not have had as much support and kind words as i have.

sorry mart only just caught this thread thoughts are with you my friend and your family hope all turns out good in the end for you and your uncle take care mucker

All my very best wish's to you and your family at this time Bud.Chin Up .......Vinz @ Jackie

Well, my uncle took a turn for a worse, and was taken to hospital, there was nothing they could do, apart from sedate him, and give him pain killers, at 6pm, he passed away.

 

Less than 2 months from being told he had it, he's gone

 

I was there with him at the end, gutted now..truly gutted

very sad news so sorry for you bud. just heard a very close friend of mine has breast cancer, and the out look isn't good cancer is a nasty thing

mate im sorry to hear that, I know all too clearly how shit it is, but keep yer chin up eh!

Deepest condolencies fella :(

thoughts are with you.

:cry:

Alan.

My deepest condolences to you and your family

 

Fas

all the best mate :(

thinking of you matey..

:( thoughts are with you bud

Sorry to hear this, my thoughts are with you, after how close my daughter came the other week, I have a whole new respect for anyone in this situation.

Devastated for you fella. At least you were there for him in those final moments, I'm sure that made it easier for him. Hang in there mate, we're all thinking of you.

sorry for you and him buddy. my mate has got cancer of the stomach so i know what it's like bud

Sorry to hear this mate - our thoughts are with you and your family.

 

Phil and Jill

Very, very sad news indeed.... Thinking of you and your family buddy... It's amazing how something like this can happen so quickly... Deeply shocked... :cry:

so sorry to hear, thinking of you and your fammily !!

Sorry to hear Mart, glad you could be there at the end. Take it easy.

 

In our thoughts.

 

David & Abi

So sorry to hear your news. God Bless

Really sad to hear bud :( All the best to you and yours

 

Steve

condolences to you and your family.

Paul

Sad news Martin. I am glad for you that you at least had the oppertunity to become close to him and sad that you lost him so soon. Chin up mate all our thoughts wont ease your pain but you have them anyway bud. ATB. Vince :bow:

mart sorry mate i mean that sincerely but at least you were there as you wanted to be with him till the very end chin up fella he knew how you felt for him you know where i am you got my number use em if you need to mucker thoughts are with you mate