hey guys. the reason i ask this here is that i have seen many other threads about very personal issues treated seriously (well as seriously as can be expected from you lot lol) and some great suggestions and advice have been given, so here goes.....

 

basically, i need to entirely kill my sex drive for the sake of my relationship. and i want to find a fairly safe way of doing this that preferably dosent involve a big knife and a wooden spoon to bite on!!!!

its been about 8 months since the mrs and i have been close physically, and to be fair to her we have just had a baby, which dosent leave much time for us, but weve never been like rabbits lol (except when trying for the baby. but with time going on so long, i find myself eyeing up other girls who i normally wouldent look at twice lol. now im not going to cheat on the mrs, as its just not fair and i wouldent put her through that, but something is bound to happen sooner or later. ill only have to be out drunk somewhere and i might not be able to fight of the advances of some similarly drunk lass :-(

 

so, if anyone knows of any meds / drugs i could take to totally kill off my sex drive (or any i should deffo avoid! as a lot of antidepressants keep being suggested), or any other suggestions, please let me know!!!!! my palms are beginning to get hairy and i think im going blind lol!

anabolic steroids. :-)

have you thought about actually talking to her to sort the problem out? LOL!

 

I know you think that you are doing this for the right reasons but would just end up with resentment in the end IMO.

 

You may have a baby but you still need time together or it will all end up going wrong anyway - even if you do find some wonder drug to eliminate your sex drive!

 

See if you can get a baby sitter - parents, family just once in a while to have some time together & get that sex drive back again!! :punk:

 

Good luck! :thumbup:

You and your wife need to have a long chat about this, let her know how you feel, try and get someone to baby sit and have a romantic night out, if she's still not up to full blown sex (no pun intended) you could try some heavy petting:tt2::).

Edited July 17, 201114 yr by 300_zedx
Great minds and all that.

first id start by discussing this with her, not the bit where your starting to feel an attraction with other women, as that will leave a lasting memory in her head and could install a sense of distrust within your relationship which is never good.

 

Now, So far you have said about how you feel about all this but haven't mentioned what she feels.

 

When a baby is born a woman goes through a lot of changes emotionally as well as chemically and physically, she may be feeling that since the baby that shes now "ugly" or something, i cant really say as you haven't given enough info from her point of view.

 

I think what you are going through though is this natural urge that people seem to have tried suppressing since the inception of marriage.

 

We are after all by nature, animals and in the animal world the male has to try and impregnate as many females as possible to insure his genes get past along.

 

Sounds primeval i know and it is. what you are experiencing is nature in effect.

 

If you want to combat it. stay true and strong to your Mrs, start by talking to her, find out how she feels, try dating her again like you have only just met, get a baby sitter and spend some quality time with her, treat her, make her feel good about her self again, get her to start doing he make up again if she hasn't done, change the living room around to give you a sense of a fresh start, start going for walks with the baby and her, trust me it all helps.

A relationship without sex is like a car with no petrol - frickin expensive and pointless. Its also unfair. The physical element of your relationship is the cement between the bricks. Without it, like Paul C said, you're onto a looser.

 

Talk to your missus and make an effort, its way too easy to take things for granted when you're in a long term relationship. Little things go a long way (that's not advice for in the bedroom), so try surprising her with some considered gifts etc. And don't leave her to look after the baby while you're out on the piss 4 nights a week!

As vods mentioned, you haven't really said anything about how she is feeling. She may well be suffering from post natel depression where sex is probably the last thing on her mind. Talk to her, rebuild your relationship and don't pressure her in to sex. If your feeling strong urges for sex then get the right hand going after all that's what it's for!

You have a child and it is now the most important thing in your lives, it's certainly not worth risking for the sake of a ten minute knee trembler in an alley next to the pub mate.

as all have said ..turn off the TV and have a chat..tell her how much you find her attractive and want her dont take it for granted that she just knows as she may be feeling very confused after having the baby ...talk it over with her .....bromide stops the sex drive ....army have used it for years...

Get a babysitter like the lads say.... and shag her!!!!

cheers for all the advice guys, but it has been talked over many times, usually resulting in argument, as she just dosent see that its an important part of the relationship. i compliment her ALL the time, and she knows how i feel. so im pretty sure that some kind of chemical intervention is the only way forward (drastic i know). so, bromide, any worries with taking that?

cheers for all the advice guys, but it has been talked over many times, usually resulting in argument, as she just dosent see that its an important part of the relationship. i compliment her ALL the time, and she knows how i feel. so im pretty sure that some kind of chemical intervention is the only way forward (drastic i know). so, bromide, any worries with taking that?

 

don't know about bromide but the Citalipram (sp?) I'm on has killed my sex drive :euro:

Lots of chocolate is supposed to reduce sex drive, failing that a heavy dose of exercise makes you too tired, lots of stress also does the trick!

Maybe suggest that she takes something to pick HER sex drive up instead of the other way around? Just a thought, why take something deliberately not to have sex?

whats sex???? lol

 

It's when a Man & a Woman who are married and love each other very much will cuddle in a special way mate.

 

Nothing for you to worry about :lol:

does it have to be a man and a woman??? i love my car and cuddle it. does this make me weird. lol

 

Only if you cuddle it in a "special" way mate :lol:

ahhhhh, the car, why didnt i think of that lol!

Maybe suggest that she takes something to pick HER sex drive up instead of the other way around? Just a thought, why take something deliberately not to have sex?

 

shes just had a baby mate, not all women like to jump streight back into the having sex bit.

 

But i will say one thing, if your sex drive is over working, no time like the present to start watching porn, its there for a reason matey.

shes just had a baby mate, not all women like to jump streight back into the having sex bit.

 

But i will say one thing, if your sex drive is over working, no time like the present to start watching porn, its there for a reason matey.

 

lol, i know she has, but it was six months ago lol! but like i said, shes never been that keen. and believe me, im no stranger to redtube lol

It's when a Man & a Woman who are married and love each other very much will cuddle in a special way mate.

 

Nothing for you to worry about :lol:

 

OMG I laughed so hard I think I peed!!!

Maybe the pair of you need to see a sex therapist?

lol, i know she has, but it was six months ago lol! but like i said, shes never been that keen. and believe me, im no stranger to redtube lol

 

mate can take a woman a lot longer than that to recover fully from having a sprog.

 

Also, she may not of been that keen before, but doing baby stuff day in and day out can be very knackering to her and the last thing she probably wants is a horny man complaining about getting his willy wet.

 

Red tube? dude come on get with the times, the place to be is FUQ. commer.

 

lol

From a woman's perspective, having given birth (just the once) it does take ages to feel sexy again, as your head is full of other priorities, not to mention the sleep deprivation has a huge effect on libido. However as your wife says she doesn't think sex is important in a relationship, that's quite a major deal if you're not on the same wavelength. I'm with the others on this, sex is a huge deal in any relationship - it smooths over the cracks (which all relationships have), and helps the feelings of closeness etc. And its fun!

Would your wife consider going to any sort of counselling with you? Because her reaction suggests that even if she hadn't given birth recently, its not very high on her list of priorities. There needs to be compromise on both sides with this one.

Hope you can work it out. And when you have time with no-one else around, fgs get some free porn, it'll at least keep your dick where it should be!!!

mate can take a woman a lot longer than that to recover fully from having a sprog.

 

Also, she may not of been that keen before, but doing baby stuff day in and day out can be very knackering to her and the last thing she probably wants is a horny man complaining about getting his willy wet.

 

Red tube? dude come on get with the times, the place to be is FUQ. commer.

lol

 

 

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Its all gone quiet!!!!! lol everyones on FUQ!!!

 

Not me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Not me.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I'm on Asianpregnantmidgetamputeeladyboys.com

 

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