Came home from work tonight and the wife wants to talk. Doesnt think we can live together any more cos of constant rowing. Have tried to talk to her but she is having none of it and feels we should divorce to give us both a chance of being happy (i thought we were ok).

 

Nothing has happened. No incident has started this, just out of the blue. Just feel numb at the moment, she says she thinks she is still in love with me just cant live together. I feel for my 20 month old too, and I will miss seeing him grow up in part. She is happy for me to stay in the house until I sort myself out.

 

Guess the Zed has to take a back seat. Sorry for rambling here but I have no-where else to go.

 

Jon

keep that chin up dude , maybe a break will do you both good :)

I have been through this a couple of times mate, although you think the bottom has dropped out of your world, it will eventually get better. Youve got to both think about whats best for your youngster. maybe some time apart is all she needs.

sorry to hear this..... hopefully in a few days it will blow over! Sometimes us women get weird ideas in our heads and after a few days things are ok... hang in there. x

 

{{big hugs}}

Sorry to hear this - been there myself so I kinda know what you're going thru'.

 

Maybe a short break apart might help. Keep things amicable and who knows..........??

I have been through this a couple of times mate, although you think the bottom has dropped out of your world, it will eventually get better. Youve got to both think about whats best for your youngster. maybe some time apart is all she needs.

thats exactly what i ment , im just no good with words

sometimes time apart is a godsend for a relationship, absense makes the heart grow fonder.

 

Think of it like this, you do not know what you have got, till its gone and possibly when the good lady realises this, she will understand exactly what she has nearly lost

Thanks for your words of kindness, I guess we can see what happpens. She seems pretty adamant and even let me phone my mum to tell her!

does your mum make your realatioship hard, the fact she let you phone means she is saying "see, ive done it", most people although they want to break up still feel guilty and embarrased when the other half talks to family members

 

i went through this, just cause my ex's father didnt like me, i split up with her just to please him and made her phone him just to get some sort of approval

 

really hope im wrong and i wish you all the best for the future

 

just seems strange to have a newborn and being happy then al of a sudden she wans a divorce

Thanks for your words of kindness, I guess we can see what happpens. She seems pretty adamant and even let me phone my mum to tell her!

 

Chin up bud, I split with my ex wife just over 3 years ago as we didn't get on. TBH it's the best thing we could of done, I'm much happier now and I have a better relationship with my 6 year old son now than I ever had before. I see him every week and every other weekend and spend more quality time with him as the timw is more valuable when you have less of it so you make more of an effort.

Well, she had gone upstairs now to phone another couple we were going on holiday with to cancel! Seems the is definately adamant!

i had a messy splt up with my ex, although we didnt have kids we did rent a flat together, had been with her for about 6 years, i lost all my friends and some family through the lies she told after we split, lost all my belongings, had to move back in with my dad, things were really bad, i was depressed for a very long time, rumours are she had an abortian, things couldnt get worse

 

THEY DIDNT, i went out with a cousin of mine on the drink, had a good nite, and eventually got into a good frame of mind, then after some time i met my soul mate michelle, she is great, we never argue, we have lots in common and i can see the rest of my lifef with her

 

what im trying to say is, dont think this is the end, it will feel like you will never recover, but beliee me you will

 

keep ya chin up bud and from my experience, dont let it get nasty, especially for your younguns sake

All taken on board mate, just so bloody quick!?

She is happy for me to stay in the house until I sort myself out.

 

Pisses me off how they automatically think THEY will have the house........tell her to buggar off and make her own nest if she doesn't like the present situation.

 

Sounds to me as though there might be someone else anyway and once you're out the way he'll move in. It happened this way to my son a couple of years ago so it could happen to you.

Pisses me off how they automatically think THEY will have the house........tell her to buggar off and make her own nest if she doesn't like the present situation.

 

Sounds to me as though there might be someone else anyway and once you're out the way he'll move in. It happened this way to my son a couple of years ago so it could happen to you.

 

 

with all due respect THEY do not always think that.

with all due respect THEY do not always think that.

 

No......just mostly!

mate as soon as you move out of the house you will relinquish all rights to it trust me i know i did the same thing some years ago and was left with my clothes in a bin liner and a lamp

feel for ya bud but hang in there you know what they say as one door opens etc

House is in her name name anyway, always has been, never thought this would happen. Not bothered about the money.

Just as a thought do you perhaps think that she is feeling down because of the baby?

 

Does she need some TLC or some time away?

 

If it is all a bit sudden perhaps you have not been puilling your weight with the nipper and she has got fed up with it.

 

Just a few thoughts.

 

Chin up and try to sort it out. Try not to listen to the people that obviously had a bad break up in the past.

 

Best of luck.

 

Darrell

Try not to listen to the people that obviously had a bad break up in the past.

 

Have you ever heard of a GOOD breakup?

I split with my ex 2 years ago. Had to move back in with my dad.Things were tough I got really down. Ended up meeting this fantastic girl and evrything is better than it ever was. Chin up m8. If you fancy a weekend in London. Gimme a shout.

I split with my ex 2 years ago. Had to move back in with my dad.Things were tough I got really down. Ended up meeting this fantastic girl and evrything is better than it ever was. Chin up m8. If you fancy a weekend in London. Gimme a shout.

 

Hey mate! That might be just the ticket! I will let you know if ok? Drop me an email: jonathan.sharp@bssgroup.com.

Thank you for all of your advice and words.

Hey mate! That might be just the ticket! I will let you know if ok? Drop me an email: jonathan.sharp@bssgroup.com.

 

Count me in too for that, a group 300zx night out in the City to cheer this guy up!!!!! :hyper:

I feel for you mate, I'm in the same boat at the moment.

I feel for you mate, I'm in the same boat at the moment.

 

It's a sh*t house mate. Feel awful. I see your not far away from me either.