This didnt need to be on here anymore.

100% agree

 

the messages of support i got over my mum really made a difference to me, made me realise that i wernt alone and that i could talk to people and that DID understand just not pretend to as most people do

 

:)

Spongey,

 

PM anytime you want a blether, or whatever.

Got pissed one night and posted up on this forum (community)

that it was the day I buried my son.

 

His name was Graham.

 

Got a shit load of support, and even though the next day I felt so mortified at the post, I thought to myself, I have recieved more messages of support through a car forum, than I got at home.

 

Get it off your chest lad, and here is the ideal place to do it.

 

Remember one thing !

 

In Tyler`s eyes, you rock !! :cool: Why ??

 

Coz he sees you as his dad !!

Try to keep the parting amicable, even if it means taking a bit of shit, coz its all here in black and white for Tyler to read later !!!

 

Check out my sig, ther 2nd one, kinda says it all really !! ;)

 

Will be here if you need owt.

 

Alan...........

 

Jesus mate that is a terrible thing to have happened, i'm so sorry to of heard that, i can only imagine how that must feel having Kids myself, loosing my mum last year and 1 of my sisters was bad enough, but your own child, god it dosnt bare thinking about, it makes loosing the love of someone so insignificant........Sorry if i have opened old wounds speaking of your loss, it brings everything into perspective, my belated condolancies bud.

I think that reading the messages on here say a lot about not just you but the people who genuinely care about you. You will get through this difficult time. Reading all the comments on this thread show that there are a lot of people who are going through similar circumstances but have not spoken out before now as to how they feel. Talking about or chatting or posting about your problems does relieve a lot of the burden as this post has shown and also that you are not alone. But it is up to the individual to take control of the situation and realise that you are not alone and if people did not care they would not offer their support. I don't want this reply to sound cheesey, its a heartfelt offer of support to all the members experiencing difficult times.

If anyone dissagree's come and see me.

This doesnt need to be here.

:cry: :cry: welling up here ......

 

as i said before ...he love's you to bit's ( dad or not ).....!!!!!

 

Hang in there bud ...;)......

 

 

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Your welcome mate. How old is the lad? He maybe a bit young to fully understand but Kids are resilient and he will adjust to the situation as you will, once he realises your not going to forget him or let him down he will look forward to seeing you, he will come to know that he has home life with mum and a fun life with dad, thing to do is not let your own emotions show in front of him, that will upset him as much as yourself make him know that his time with you is going to be a fun and happy time. When you get your car back and once the better weather is here bring him to some meets/shows etc

mate im filling up reading that :cry:

i hope all of you find some comfort in the fact that this is the hardest part and you will all soon get used to the new situation. keep reminding yourself that what youre doing is for the best for everyone. God bless - especially your son.

it does get better, why wouldnt it? everyone on here has probably been through the same, my ex just booted me out after 3 years with no explanation or anything.

 

I thought we would go the full mile and all that jazz and i was gutted, there is a huge thread ref this on this very forum. sometimes thigs run their course, no ones fault it just happens

 

Takes time admittedly but you will not die from it and what doesent kill you will make you stronger and more experienced.

 

Your the same age as me and hell if i can bounce back anyone can, infact him telling me it wasnt working and to get out has turned out to be the best thing that could have ever happened to me, ive since bought my own pad, doing my car up etc!!

 

what im trying to say is that it might take a bit of time and upset bbut you will survive and come out a stronger person

 

Why did you dump him...... :shock:

I know this is a message board about our cars but I have to write about this as its killing me, feeling very alone right now.

 

Im 27 and have known my missis sarah since we were 14yrs old. We never got together as it was such a good friendship that we didnt want to spoil what we had. We lost contact for a while when she moved up here to MK from london and in that time had a son called tyler.

 

I never forgot about her and the same for her towards me. Her relationship with tylers dad went bad and likewise i wasnt in a good relationship also. I dont know what made me do it but i called her nearly 5yrs ago out of the blue and that was it, the missing part of my life was there and we could both feel it and moved in together within a couple of weeks and were engaged within a month.

 

Tyler had his name changed to mine, He only knows me as daddy and doesnt know Im not his real dad.

 

2wks ago on sunday, Sarah told me it wasnt working out. I had known it wasnt good for a while but was too stupid to try and do anything about it. Its all over, we tried to make it work for 2wks but its going badly wrong and only getting worse. On this sunday it ended for good.

 

Im losing my soulmate, Im losing my son even though ill allways be here for him, losing my home. I dont know anything else other then me and sarah. We havnt been apart in the whole 5yrs we been together. She is the first thing i think of in the morning and the last at night.

 

Now i have to move out and its killing me.

 

I spoke to andyduff yesterday who has been through the same and said it gets better but i just cant see it.

 

Sorry to bring the mood down but just reading back over this helps, Ive been of work this week and been alone the whole time so cant stop thinking about it every second. Ive had my mate ben who has been great around me but i cant hear what hes saying let alone take it in.

 

What a shit time.

 

It get's better with time. Trust me been there done that. Pick yourself up and get out there & you are NOTon your own you got us lot to kick you up the ass. Come out with me and the boys. Chin up M8.