This didnt need to be on here anymore.

I'm really sorry to hear that mate, It has happened to me, and right now, you think that what the point in going on, and that things will never get better. I ended up in hospital mate. Things will get better, it just takes time. :)

it does get better, why wouldnt it? everyone on here has probably been through the same, my ex just booted me out after 3 years with no explanation or anything.

 

I thought we would go the full mile and all that jazz and i was gutted, there is a huge thread ref this on this very forum. sometimes thigs run their course, no ones fault it just happens

 

Takes time admittedly but you will not die from it and what doesent kill you will make you stronger and more experienced.

 

Your the same age as me and hell if i can bounce back anyone can, infact him telling me it wasnt working and to get out has turned out to be the best thing that could have ever happened to me, ive since bought my own pad, doing my car up etc!!

 

what im trying to say is that it might take a bit of time and upset bbut you will survive and come out a stronger person

Wayne, andy is right, i've been through it twice, ive had to walk out the marital home leaving behind the ones i loved, nothing hurt me more than seeing my kids at the window crying and calling me to come back as i walked away from the house, it broke my heart and i've never felt pain like it but as time goes by it will get easier and the pain does subside although you cant see it at the moment, trust me. Give it a bit of time and the situation may change at the moment emotions are raw.

really sorry to hear that mate. ive only been in the situation once where i lost someone i really loved and for weeks even months afterwards it feels so empty and i just felt that there was no-one in the world who could be as good as them. but there is always someone just as good if not better out there somewhere, i've learned that myself.

if its not too difficult try and stay friends if you can, at least for the kid's sake.

and dont apologise about posting - we're much more than just a car club :) chin up mate.

it does get better, why wouldnt it? everyone on here has probably been through the same, my ex just booted me out after 3 years with no explanation or anything.

 

I thought we would go the full mile and all that jazz and i was gutted, there is a huge thread ref this on this very forum. sometimes thigs run their course, no ones fault it just happens

 

Takes time admittedly but you will not die from it and what doesent kill you will make you stronger and more experienced.

 

Your the same age as me and hell if i can bounce back anyone can, infact him telling me it wasnt working and to get out has turned out to be the best thing that could have ever happened to me, ive since bought my own pad, doing my car up etc!!

 

what im trying to say is that it might take a bit of time and upset bbut you will survive and come out a stronger person

 

Thats all true, i remember your thread at the time, and look at you now, you've found love and happiness again, although at the time you felt the same as wayne does now.

 

The girl is talking sense wayne, its a long road your going to go down with a few high and lows but you will come to the end of the road one day and happiness will be waiting for you at the end, its hard to think positive at the moment as your still hurting maybe you think no one else will ever take the place of the person you lost, but there will be and you will look back and put it down to experience, as thats what lifes all about :)

Sh1t dude. When I met you two it seemed like you were fine!

 

Sorry to here that!

Cack time your going through fella, but like Andy says it will get better and you will feel better.

 

Keep your chin up bud.

Mate i know what you're on about, i met someone in february last year.

 

We got chatting on msn, and met up the next day for lunch. At the time i was involved in an unhappy relationship with someone and couldn't do anything.

 

There was such amazing chemistry and i fell for her there and then.

 

I never have and never will dump anyone to be with someone and i said that we had to stay friends.

 

It killed me to not be with her but i couldn't do anything about it. She had 2 little ones and still had to live with her ex partner.

 

September came and i helped her move house to the same town as me, i go to know the lads, my relationship fell through and we ended up finally together.

 

It was amazing, so much love and chemistry then it all changed on her side just before christmas and i not only lost someone i loved but two lovely little lads who i thought of as my own.

 

I have to drive past her house every day going to visit my clients and its horrible seeing other people's cars in her driveway and random guys hanging out her back door smoking.

 

It broke my heart completely and still hurts but i've recently met someone special, its early days but she's taken alot of the pain away and given me new hope so don't give up matey.

 

Things will get better and Tyler will always love you as his dad no matter what

Sad news mate, I'm really sorry for you. There is some very good advice from all of the above which you should try and take on board if you can. We've all been there fella and who knows we could go through it again a few more times in our life, you just never know. Time really is the only thing thats makes it easier and you've just got to battle on and accept that the next few months are gonna be tough and uncomfortable for you but it will get easier and you will get stronger, trust me.

Wayne!!.. I am totally shocked mate.. I wondered why you hadn't been on the Forum lately..

We were only talking recently about my divorce, and you were telling me how I would find happineness again (and you are right!!).. Now I have to say the same words to you, and they are not empty words.

Yes, it does hurt like hell right now mate, it's a real crappy, sh.ty feeling to say the least.. But please believe me, there is another life after a long relationship.. It took me a while to realise, and to let go, and even though I still love my ex wife to bits, and probably always will, and really didn't want to let her go.. I had to for my own sanity, and glad I did.. I think you could tell when we met I am happy in my new batchelor pad, living the single life.. And if that's the path you have to take, so be it.. It's not a bad life mate.. You will, in a short while, stand up, brush yourself off, and get on with a good life.. And you will be stronger.. Believe me.

In the meantime, if you ever want a chat or to pop down for a drink across the road, just give me a call mate.. Get yourself through this early rough bit best you can mate.. Get out with your mates!! Seriously mate!! Don't mope about, it didn't do me any good.. You have to stand up tall, hold your head up, and take life by the throat, and make it good for you.

 

Chin up Buddy.. I am feeling for you.

Very sorry to hear that mate.

 

Gin and on-line gambling is the answer!

 

 

Only joking. I'm sure in a while you'll look back and think it was all for the best. But I can understand right now everything must feel pretty pointless.

 

Chin up and chest out mate - it'll all be ok. :)

you dont want to hear these words yet but trust me ''plenty more fish in the sea''

 

i never get too attatched purely and simply for the reasons you have all stated above you let your guard down and you will get kicked in the nads

 

some will say what i do is shallow but it stops me from making a fool of myself

 

nature doesnt lend itself to monogamy but when you are at the top of the evolutionary tree you always think you can buck the trend

Sorry to hear that mate. I guess there are no words anyone can say that will make you feel better. Time is the best healer.

 

It sounds to me that you still want it to work so much. If that's the case it may be worth searching for the reason you have split and to see if there is anything that may make it work. If either of you have to change drastically, then sometimes it's just best to let it go.

 

What ever decisions you make, I wish you all the best and hope things work out in the long run for you.

Been there too bud, I had to walk away from my kids - so incredibly difficult...it took me over 2 years to actually do it. But it does get better.

 

If theres only 1 small bit of advice I would dare offer to you....

 

Dont spend too much time thinking about the what ifs etc etc, as hard as it is, get out with your mates or find stuff to occupy yourself with...do anything but stay in and think about whats happened.

 

Wish you well bud

 

Marc

Some good sound advice there bud. I've never met you and your lady, but it's never easy to break up but you will get over it and in time it will have made you stronger.

 

In the mean time take marcz32's advice and get back on the saddle of lfe as fast as poss.

Oh my God!

 

I split up with my Girlfiend yesterday after 5 years!

 

I'm kinda down in the dumps yet kinda happy as it had all gone wrong anyway - too much water under the bridge.

 

Chin up mate, maybe we can form a down in the dumps club or a singles club!

 

Just remember as one door shuts, another one opens.

 

Andy

sorry to hear mate, but i can imagine it will get easier with time, just try to remain friends at least and be there for your boy! what more can you do, other than feel depressed, just keep plodding along and have some good friends around few nights out party time.

 

greg

Bud

I cant say anything that hasnt allready been said on here, just remember as said were a community not a forum and will be here for you through whatever happens and whatever you need to say.

YEP been there ... :headvswal ....

 

it will get better.. :rolleyes: ...but it take's a lot of time ....

 

the best thing yo do IMHO...try to keep a good bond with the boy(dad or not)..he has a bond with you and the 1st year's of life make the man..;)

 

if you need to chat call me ..07798625541....#

 

chin up bud ...;)

 

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Bud

I cant say anything that hasnt allready been said on here, just remember as said were a community not a forum and will be here for you through whatever happens and whatever you need to say.

 

 

 

P.S. ....very well said ....here here.... :)

 

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Sorry to hear fella,

Me and my ex split up after 8 years.

Now I am married to the best woman in the world :)

It does get better mate.....

ive been through it, and what helped me was knowing that other people have done it and got through it, most of them actually better off, chin up bud, it will seem like it cant get better but it will

 

get yourself round people and dont just hold up inside that will make it worse

i dont know how u feel so i wont say that i do :(

 

all i can say m8 is that i giess it will get better, all pain does

 

chin up and try and look forward :)

oops, misread something - ignore this! :headvswal

Spongey,

 

PM anytime you want a blether, or whatever.

Got pissed one night and posted up on this forum (community)

that it was the day I buried my son.

 

His name was Graham.

 

Got a shit load of support, and even though the next day I felt so mortified at the post, I thought to myself, I have recieved more messages of support through a car forum, than I got at home.

 

Get it off your chest lad, and here is the ideal place to do it.

 

Remember one thing !

 

In Tyler`s eyes, you rock !! :cool: Why ??

 

Coz he sees you as his dad !!

Try to keep the parting amicable, even if it means taking a bit of shit, coz its all here in black and white for Tyler to read later !!!

 

Check out my sig, ther 2nd one, kinda says it all really !! ;)

 

Will be here if you need owt.

 

Alan...........