just want peoples honest views on this situation

 

right, was checking my emails and the missus as a couple of bits go to her address, seen that she signed up for friends reunited

 

check the site out and she had emailed sum lad to see if he new this guy

 

anyway, i asked the missus who it was, normal question i thought

 

she went off on one saying it was "non of my buissness, in the past, ill go mad"

 

thought to my self sumthign ant right here, only a question FFS. Asked her about it more and she said that she had wanted to meet up with him to see what he was up to, if he was married etc

 

she then said that she thought he was more attractive then me

 

says she has never been with him, not bothered if she had been, in the past, just the fact that she went all defensive and the fact that she didnt tell me aoubt any of the emails. she also says its ok to have secrets which i disagree with 100%

 

i dont know what to beleive now

 

any ideas?

 

cheers guys

Tricky one mate. But to be honest, your gut feeling will most likely be right.

 

Whay whould she fly off on one for no reason?

 

Could be wrong.

 

she then said that she thought he was more attractive then me

 

As much as it's ok to try and get in contact with old friends and see what they're doing, the above statement is bang out of order. I'd be having stern words. Whilst she might think that, there's just no reason to turn round to the person she's supposed to love and say that.

 

Out of order IMHO to the highest degree.

dump the bitch

your gut feeling will most likely be right.

 

I would act as if the matter has been dropped but go into detective mode. If she is up to no good and thinks that you dont notice she will slip up.

 

I hope its not true

i ahve told that i ant gona drop this till i find out what is going on, just that fact that she went mad for no reason that is getting to me the most

 

have suggested a lie detector test as well ;)

ok to have secrets? would she think the same if it was you and a female "friend"? I don't think so.

so she's lieing and cheating on you and says its ok, lol, i'd say thats reasonable grounds for a breakup :(

You can get some "spy" software that secretly logs everything typed on your PC including websites, e-mails, MSN chats etc.

 

Worked a treat for me a few years ago when my ex was seeing someone else and chatting on the PC while I was at work.

I already knew it at the time but it showed me just how many lies she was stringing me along with.

 

Hope it's nothing to worry about...

 

Chris.

as above you want a keystroke logger, this will then save it to a log file that she wont know about, i have got one here somewhere i can give you.

........she she also says its ok to have secrets which i disagree with 100%

 

 

It's not ok to have secrets, especially ones like this. If theres nothing to hide she would have told you before this.

 

just my 2p...........

Software Keystroke loggers are good, but make sure you get one that operates in full 'stealth mode'. Otherwise they pop up when someone logs on. A good software one will be able to take screenshots as well at defined periods, and if you want, can email them out as well.

 

Keystroke logging devices also worth looking at, as they plug in inline with your keyboard as it plugs into the back of the PC. You can then recover the logs off of the device.

 

Not that Ive ever been through this process at all. :rolleyes:

as above you want a keystroke logger, this will then save it to a log file that she wont know about, i have got one here somewhere i can give you.

 

the very fact that you would contemplate using a keylogger, to my mind at least, means your relationship is over - there's obviously no trust and I wouldn't want to live the rest of my life with someone I feel I have to constantly 'monitor'

 

Rich

to be honest guys

 

im just ask her once more for the truth

 

if she still dont come clean then im off

 

its a shame cose i have been with her for 6 years but im not gona live with sum1 that lies

 

:(

To quote:

 

Burn the soles of her feet with a hot crack pipe...lol

 

I have always wanted to beat Craig David to that one... :tongue: :tongue:

Rich666 has hit the nail on the head. Having no trust is the worst thing cos it will do your head in. Good luck what ever happens.

 

Vijay

most girls go from guy to guy - to do that needs covert, lying behaviour, as they don't want to go without and be on their own for any period. The problem with modern society is this is pretty acceptable, as they just say "the relationship was ending anyway - I needed a way out".

 

Also, the double standard is that this approach fulfills a woman's biological strategy, whereas if a guy was to do follow his biological stategy (numerous sex partners), he would be called a cad/cheater/sleaze etc. This is why marriage suites women more than men, at least from a biologicl point of view (and biology affects us all in profound ways whether we know it or not)

I think Nelson's being a *bit* cynical... however FWIW, my gut feeling is you should walk away.

be fair - how many of you met the partner you're with, when she was single ? How many waited while she found the "best time" to tell him it was over ? More like "waiting to make sure you are serious and worth moving onto" !

To quote:

 

Burn the soles of her feet with a hot crack pipe...lol

 

I have always wanted to beat Craig David to that one... :tongue: :tongue:

 

 

Oohhhh.. he beat me to it - I was going to type that as well.

Tricky one mate. But to be honest, your gut feeling will most likely be right.

 

Whay whould she fly off on one for no reason?

 

Could be wrong.

I agree with the above............she's playing head games mate :(

Nelson MainFella I think the way women behave these days is more to do with the liberalised society of today. Where every womens magazine tells them how to get more, be self gratified etc. Its comercially driven politically correct, so called "female empowerment". People of my generation call it an excuse for being a slag. It's got nothing to do with biological stategy, but lots to do with Lesbian and Omosexual lobby groups and M.P's etc that want there cake and get it eaten.

 

If I was ever in the market for a permenant female partner I wouldn't look in the U.K. If I want a fook no questions asked I go out in the UK on a day of the week ending in Y. If I wanted love I'd look at Hungary, Romania, Poland or the Cetz republic and even Japan or Tialand where they've been brought up to respect the man as the head of the household.

 

I'm sorry MarkGSI, but I have to agree with the coments about lying and cheeting. People who have secrects are keeping you at a distance and serving there own needs. If you're going to settle with someone you need to know what each other are about and that you are certain you can rely on them. Otherwize Mr dowt will get in you head and knaw your brains away while shes bleeding your Bank acount and valuable time you could be spending with someone who apreciates you and not sucking your lifes blood.

 

Ditch the Bitch.

 

P.S. Nelson when I was younger (maybe where I come from) You'd shagg birds that had boyfriends or husbands. + You listen sympathetically to there excuses as to why they were after a bit of stange. Just to ease there gilt so you could nail em, but go out with em NO.

If I wanted love I'd look at Hungary, Romania, Poland or the Cetz republic and even Japan or Tialand where they've been brought up to respect the man as the head of the household.

 

 

Nah, they're just looking for a way out of the country.

 

MarkGSI, I agree with most of the above. Their is nothing worse than living in doubt. If there is no trust it aint worth it IMO.

most girls go from guy to guy - to do that needs covert, lying behaviour, as they don't want to go without and be on their own for any period. The problem with modern society is this is pretty acceptable, as they just say "the relationship was ending anyway - I needed a way out".

 

Also, the double standard is that this approach fulfills a woman's biological strategy, whereas if a guy was to do follow his biological stategy (numerous sex partners), he would be called a cad/cheater/sleaze etc. This is why marriage suites women more than men, at least from a biologicl point of view (and biology affects us all in profound ways whether we know it or not)

 

some bird must have done a right number on you ?

Do not agree with any of that.

 

But I do think there is a problem if she is having a Pop just for asking the question. :mad:

I'm being a devils advocate here but why were you checking her Friends Re-Unite account? Perhaps she was a bit pissed off that you'd been checking?

 

Also, this lad she was trying to get in touch with was perhaps an old boyfriend. Perhaps it was just an innocent attempt to see what he was doing now. Would you not be tempted to do the same if you so an old flame on friends re-unite?

 

If it was me, I'd just say something like 'Listen, it makes me feel uncomfortable you getting in touch with some bloke from the past, if you care about my feelings then please let it go.' If she persisted with it then I'd be tempted to tell her to fook off!

most girls go from guy to guy - to do that needs covert, lying behaviour

 

I've seen plenty of blokes do the same, in fact most do, Lol!