Had a real crap few weeks and everytime I think its getting better WHAM!!! Something else knocks me down!

 

Need cheering up guys plz :(

What's up?

Everything :(

 

Found out today that my husband has been sleeping with his gym buddy after all!

Everything :(

 

Found out today that my husband has been sleeping with his gym buddy after all!

 

get a zed, that will cheer you up, or just look at my football gif blow in my sig. that always makes me laugh.

Everything :(

 

Found out today that my husband has been sleeping with his gym buddy after all!

 

Oh no, that's not good.

You want a talk?

Edited July 10, 201213 yr by 300ZX_666

Got it thanks, don't think I could talk to anyone at the moment just keep sobbing. But thankyou

No problem. Open invitation if you do. When did you find out about it?

get a zed, that will cheer you up, or just look at my football gif blow in my sig. that always makes me laugh.

 

That's brilliant Ian, not seen that before.....lol

He left me 3 months ago and the last 4 weeks he's been begging me to have him back! Well this morning he rung me and asked if he could take me out at the weekend so we could talk I said we'd see, he then quizzed me about anybody I'd seen while with been apart and I told him hadn't been with anyone (which I haven't) so I asked him the same question and he said yeh got it out of him its was the gym buddy and throughout the day his lies have been unfolding and turns out he's been seeing her for 3 weeks but he's been coming round here within that time trying to rekindle things shall we say! I'm absolutely gutted!

Hope you have chucked him out on his ear.

So what you need to do now is get up, get dressed up, and have a good night on the town.

He was already out just told him I don't want anything to do with him as I could never forgive what he's done to me and he still carried on telling me he loved me and wanted his wife back but he's still sleeping with her and she doesn't well didn't know about him coming here but she does now!!!! He denied it to her of course and said that I wasn't to say anything so I asked him did he want tto keep his wife a dirty litttle secret so he could have a relationship with her and he said yeah! So I told her everything in a message and I've got the texts to prove it all but down to them now, but I'm hurting so much and everytime I try and sleep I just see them and hear all the crap he's come out with

Want's his cake and eat it too? Well you have done the right thing telling the other one what he has been doing. Now, think of the thing you would most like to go and do, and go and do it. I'll have a TT Zed......lol

I've already been searching for a zed, always said I'd get one again and now I'm going to make it my goal!

 

Thanks for listening its helped a lot :) still cantt sleep tho lol

lol, no problem, this is what it's all about. Yeah, go for it girl, get yourself another Zed.

Really sorry to read this mate, stay strong. you dont need a cheat. Hope things start to change for you soon. :)

Different scenario i know, but when my ex-wife and i split up (her choice) i moved back to my mum and dads for awhile with my tail between my legs and spent a few weeks not doing anything until one friday night i came home from work and i thought sod it, im going out!..........and from that point on i never looked back!.Realised that i could do pretty much what i wanted, when i wanted and had a great time and met some really great people.Now settled down again (good job otherwise id either have alcohol poisoning or the 'pox'.......or both!!!, LOL) and its great.

 

I think what im trying to say is yes things might be crap at the moment but they do get a lot better, and at the end of the day you dont need a cheating as@hole in your life.......lifes too short as it is to get hung up on people like that when life is for living! :)

I`m just going through a similar situation :( we have just split after 14 years!!! still friends but not getting on, so your not alone Nikki, shame you so far away, I could take you out in the zed :tt1: chin up girl, there`s plenty of fish in the sea and right one will be caught soon enough, It feels hard inside and a bit sicky feeling, get your ass out as Rebel says and enjoy yourself............One life live it!!!!!

 

Daz

I`m just going through a similar situation :( we have just split after 14 years!!! still friends but not getting on, so your not alone Nikki, shame you so far away, I could take you out in the zed :tt1: chin up girl, there`s plenty of fish in the sea and right one will be caught soon enough, It feels hard inside and a bit sicky feeling, get your ass out as Rebel says and enjoy yourself............One life live it!!!!!

 

Daz

 

theres a coincidence, i was married for for years before we split!.

Thanks guys, I had started to move on and even went on a couple of dates one of which was great until I found out he was a player and the toher one omg won't even go there lol but the **** won't leave me alone I've even had him on the phone at 6am this morning telling me he's finished it with her (I think she did him cos she found out he was doing the pair of us) (obv not at the same time lol) and that he's sorry and he wants to make it up to me etc etc.

 

I just want to get on with my life but he's proper messing with my head!

 

Daz I'm moving to southport lol just so I get a ride in the zed lol x

That's bad news !

 

I know it feels hard at the mo and u cant see the end of it, there is nothing that anyone can say will make you feel better :(

 

But trust me it does get easier and it won't be too long before you can shake her by the hand for doing you a favour and taking him off you !

 

Yes, I have been there ! Lol

Hi Nicci,

 

I don't know you at all so it's easy for me to have an opinion, but I would say never ever listen to his lies again, don't even entertain them or it'll do your head in even more. It's more about self respect and sadly, he doesn't seam to have much :( Keep you head up and smile through it, you still have your dignity cos you obviously gave him chances to put things right ;)

 

Just take care of yourself!

 

Vijay

Onwards and upwards! He had his chance, he blew it. A few good 'girlie' nights out to get your confidence back and things will soon be looking up.

I think I know what I've got to do and it scares me a bit cos its so final! I know there's plenty more fish in the sea but who wants to go out with a fish??? Lol all jokes aside I know I can do better I'm not past it yet so I'm going to look for my Mr Grey :)

theres a coincidence, i was married for for years before we split!.

 

Yeh, its going to be hard, but I`ve been going with Sarah since she was 16, and we got engaged 10 years ago!!! so maybe she wants to spread her wings too!! as I say, we are still friends but more like brother /sister relationship, I`m up and down at the moment, and I`m just waiting for the estate agents to come and value the house :( which I`m more sad about to be honest, I`ve just got the house how we want it as well, but hey ho!!! onwards and upwards (i hope)

I reckon Thailand is on the cards for me and then snowboarding with the lads in the winter, should keep me happy for a while :)

 

So Nikki, I reckon ,get yourself another zed and get to some meets with us lot, I may be able to squeeze you in my tent at JAE!! but the smaller the tent the better I say :biggrin: