Sorry to bear my soul on here

 

Well after being married for nearly 13 years, a few weeks ago my wife came home and dropped the bomb shell that she was not happy and she wanted us to split up :(

 

After a heart to heart we went away for a few days and got things back on track but last night when she came home from work she tells me that its over :cry:

 

Now i thought i knew women but i'm at a loss?? how can you throw away 13 years?? i thought i was happily married until a few weeks ago?

 

I am trying to put a brave face on it and sorting out everything but with a house, kid, dog and a house full of stuff its not something i'm looking forward to.

 

And i'm really not looking forward to being single again after so many years.

 

Mike

im gutted for ya mate, i wouldnt know where to start if me ans shell split, hope things get better soon for ya mate

aww sorry to hear that hun, hope things get better for you

christ mate thats bad news, hope all goes well.

im gutted for ya mate, i wouldnt know where to start if me ans shell split, hope things get better soon for ya mate

 

tell me about it, i feel a little lost at the moment.

 

just the thought of having to start all over again make me feel sick, the only up side is no one to tell me no when spending on the zed :rolleyes:

 

means i have to find a shitty flat to live in :mad:

Sorry to hear this mate :cry:

Mike I know how you feel the same thing happend to me 2 years ago, all i can say is try not to pressure her as it only makes things worse. I am still single at the moment @ 44. Its a kick in the teeth I know but you must not get too low, all the best mate

 

Allan

Sorry to here this fella, had same thing happen to me 7 years ago. Could see it coming from the beginning if we were both honest with ourselves we just bared eachother for 13 years.

 

Takes a while but you'll be ok. Just keep busy

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Chin up fella. You have many friends here.

 

Alan.......

Hi Chin up

 

I've been single at several times but you always find someone new when you least expect it.

 

Just don't feel sorry for yourself. Think forward ... Today is the first day of the rest of my life and if I don't like it then it's up to me to change it.... and you will

 

All the best

Very sad and I wish you all the best. I'm sure things will definitely get better, even though it might sound like a cliche at the moment.

very sad when this happens, tough times ahead but we are all hear for you in time all will be fine

Really gutted for you mike :(

:confused:Really Sorry to hear this mate,

 

I was with my Ex-wife for 14 years - 2 houses and a kid so I know it's difficult.

 

I know you probably don't want to hear it right now but it will get better in time. If I had not split up with my ex then I would never have found the love of my life and get remarried. I thought I was going to be alone forever - you just have to have the strength to get through right now - and the next day - and the next month - take it a bit at a time. Try not to fall apart - I know it sounds cheesey but its the whole "one door closes and another opens" thing.

 

I have PM'd you my number - if you just want to chat - give me a call.

 

Good luck with it all fella - Cyrus

really sorry to hear this Mike :( i was gutted when me and my last g/f broke up after only 4 years. im single at 32 if that helps at all! im sure youll get back on track sooner or later.

Chin up theres plenty of other fluff about.The big question is what happened at her works to make her say thats it all over.

Blimey mate! Cant believe it. Im hoping that she'll realise she's making a mistake. I cant imagine what must be runnnig through your head. I hope you can sort things out again.

 

A friend of mine went through something similar, within a few weeks she realised what she had with him and it was a bit rocky at first but they are well back on track now and have had their first kid together. They are now stronger than ever before, so keep hopeful!

Sorry to hear pal :(

Thats harsh and I feel for you bud, gotta be really tough with the littlun in the picture as well. As someone on this thread said before - you got lots of mates here who will help in any way we can.

 

I know it probably feels impossible, but try and keep positive if you can, one door closing and another opening and all that.

really gutted for you as you say 13 years is a long time

Sorry to read this Mike.

Been through it myself, also at 36, after only 9 years of marriage. So if there's anything you wana know or talk about just give me a shout anytime and I'll help or just listen in any way that I can.

 

Dave

Sorry to hear that fella.

 

Best thing to do..........if theres ever anything you have wanted to do in life, snowboard, bungy jump, freefalling, anythign like that you have always wanted to do and you have been held back..........Well now is the time to get yourself out there and do it!!

 

You never know she might see that your moving on enjoying life again and realise what shes lost.

 

You WILL find somebody else just try keep the head up and keep the mind occupied on stuff so your not sitting about thinking all the time.

 

best of luck mate.

 

Craig

Truly gutted to hear this mate, 13 years is a long time but if it's any consellation (and i know it's nowhere near being in the same league) my fiance disappeared on me back in march a week before she was supposed to move in with me.

 

Ignored my phone calls, etc then i found out she'd been living with another man for the time i'd been with her etc, it's left me totally devastated and i haven't wanted to get involved with anyone since then.

 

BUT it's given me alot of time to clear my head and do the things i needed to do that i never got round to when i was with her, i spend more time with my friends and family now, i get out and do more with the extra money i have for myself and the break of being in a relationship has done me good in some ways. The V8 is almost complete and i've got all the shows next year to look forward too although she'll be there somewhere unfortunately.

 

Don't worry mate, time is a healer and although it might not take a few weeks to get over it things will get better.

 

We're all here for you if you want to chat :)

 

Nick

Mike im so sorry to hear this. Had a major break up two years ago. Was gutted, had to move back to parents etc. Just a matter of time though. Im happier than ever now and glad it happened. At the time though i was devistated.

Shag her sister - makes you feel so much better :D :mac1:

Shag her sister - makes you feel so much better :D :mac1:

 

LOL she doesnt have one but i do work with her 2 brothers and father :smw: