:(:( so sorry to post up here but need to talk to someone just finished with the girlfriend who i really loved would do anything to get her back but i just dont know what to do :( i dont have the will to eat or sleep or even live anymore and have started to slash my wrists, dont know who to talk to sorry guys

Sorry to hear that bud. But i suppose the question you need to ask yourself is Why did you finish with her? Something must've happened to make you finish it.

 

The other thing is, if you'd do anything to have her back, why not tell her that? Speak to her.

 

HTH

she finished with me and she has got it into her head that i was seeing someone else when i first started going with her i have pleaded with her its not true but she just cant get it out of her head

have started to slash my wrists

 

I know negative comments are clearly not what you want here but doing that is the dumbest idea in the world... how on earth is this possibly going to help the situation??? We have all been in your situation and all got through it you just need to Man up abit! Yes i know it seems like tough love but you need to get up and get outside and do something.

 

Sulking at home is only going to make things worse you need to keep your mind active and busy so go for a Jog with a mp3 player or wash the car, clean your garage. DO SOMETHING!

 

The best thing i was told was after a break up was that the best way to get over a girl was every time you had a thought of here just picture her doing a great big smelly shit and then you will stop thinking of her! :D

 

Tough love i know but being soft will only prolong the process of recovery

 

Good luck and stop your hurting yourself! :slap:

Hello bud,

 

I don't know you at all but I really hope you don't do anything sill. Hurting yourself just isn't the answer. How long has she been thinking that you were seeing someone else? What made her think that?

 

By all means PM me if you want, don't have the answers but will give an honest opinion.

 

Vijay

I know negative comments are clearly not what you want here but doing that is the dumbest idea in the world... how on earth is this possibly going to help the situation??? We have all been in your situation and all got through it you just need to Man up abit! Yes i know it seems like tough love but you need to get up and get outside and do something.

 

Sulking at home is only going to make things worse you need to keep your mind active and busy so go for a Jog with a mp3 player or wash the car, clean your garage. DO SOMETHING!

 

The best thing i was told was after a break up was that the best way to get over a girl was every time you had a thought of here just picture her doing a great big smelly shit and then you will stop thinking of her! :D

 

Tough love i know but being soft will only prolong the process of recovery

 

Good luck and stop your hurting yourself! :slap:

 

my sincere appology for writting that just im so low at the moment im sorry

my sincere appology for writting that just im so low at the moment im sorry

 

We can see that, but take at least some of my advice... go out and get Active!! Do something to keep your brain busy!!

 

Staring at the computer screen will not solve anything! Go out and Be Active and you will start to feel abit better! Then come back have a look at (hopefully) a long list of Replies to this thread!

 

Oh and no need to apologize :)

there is a need to appologise i think people dont need to read this and feel sorry for me the 300 forum has been the best place ever for help and advice and friends along the years i just wanted to talk to someone and typing it seemed eisiest way

HI, Bud, I`m not very good a writing letters/text but needed to say a few things, Your a brave man to comment on your love life on the forum, but `TOTAL` respect mate! I think men in general hide things away too much and need to speak open as quite clearly you do, my small bit of advice is to keep strong and things may get back to normal for you! she may see she has made a mistake and come running back to you after a few weeks, BUT, if it doesnt work out, there are plenty of fish in the sea ,as my mum used to say. and for me when i have finished with a girl it seems the end of the world, BUT someone better always comes along, and makes the old girlfriend seem a pain in the arse, this has happened to me so many times, even though you dont want to hear that now, IT ALWAYS DOES BECOME BETTER IN THE END.

I have finished with my current girlfriend a few times over 13 years and after a few week s she sees the light and comes back, so hope this happens to you bud, KEEP STRONG

 

PM me if you want, you can call me on my mobile.

 

Take care Bud and RESPECT!!

 

Daz

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Hello bud.... whenever you talk to her or see her face to face,try to be strong and keep your chin up................ she will see you for who you were when you met..... try not to get upset in front of her or beg her to come back....(after all you want her back because she has feelings for you ... not that she feels sorry for you,

A similar thing happened to me 17 years ago...... she came back and we will have been together 25 years next year......keep strong bud and look after yourself;)

I have to agree with Munny, go out and do something to drag yourself out of the depths. It is hard, i was engaged until may then it ended suddenly and it took a lot to get over it but i feel so much better now, better than i have for years.

Women!!!!

Women sometimes just don't know what they want mate. Trust me i got 8 kids and on second wife!!

You have to ask why she thinks you were seeing someone else. maybe its something somebody said, or something you did that made her think it.

Either way you really need to talk to her(women love that sort of thing) try not to get to emotional so you have a level of clarity. She should understand that to have a future she needs to stop living in the past.

 

Sometimes people just need a break from each other. It can make a relationship stronger spending a little time apart.

 

We have all been here before mate its just life as others have said you must do something not sit around letting it get to you.

 

go out and have a :duffer: or 2.

Enjoy life or at least look like you are. best way to make her see what she's missing.

 

Good luck mate and keep your chin up. It will get better.

 

 

 

 

 

 

All the best. just call me Dr Phil and leave the cash in the pot.

Dude, best thing is to get pissed, be down and upset for a while and wallow in your self indungence.

 

Ignore the "It will get better over time" comments for now and just be upset and let it all out.

 

You'll feel like shit for ages, months maybe, then at some point you'll realise you dont feel like crap any more. It wont be like a switch and everything is fine, just one day you will realise for a while its been ok.

 

End of the day it will get better, but now now and not soon. Just have to ride it out.

 

If you need a break give me a shout and I'll put you up for a few days and i'll show you the sights of Essex nightlife (its shit but the offer is seriously there).

 

If not, just be down, your entitled to be, your ment to be, but not too down eh :)

Good advice there from Dr Phil Chin up mate.

 

Why dont you take your Z apart polish everything then put it all back together that should take your mind for things for a bit.

Dewi, give it a little time, throw your time into the running or weights we were talking about at the Haigh Hall show, so when you see her the next time you are at your best and see what happens.

 

Pm me if you need to chat.

 

Barry.

I finished with my girlfriend back in january after 3 years, yes i was gutted and down, but i most certainly didnt let her know or see that, i got up and was out at the gym, my pals where always up for going out, i cleaned polished my car, i learned how to snowboard, then went snowboarding everyweek.

I actually learned and done so much stuff i had always wanted to do and try but never felt i had much time for.

Now back together with her, but i havent changed now, still always doing stuff with the lads, snowboardign etc...........its much better.

 

What im basically saying mate is........get yourself out get active learn how to do something and keep at it. Seriously takes your mind off stuff. Hurting yourself by doing your wrist will help nobody, she will see that and now theres somethign not right.

Get yourself up active and hold your head up and dont let her see that is killing you inside.........Then when use finally meet and talk be confident and tell her how you feel, but dont brake down.

 

Forgot to mention, will doing this new stuff i had met somebody else aswell, which really takes your mind off it all, best thing to do is get active and try new stuff meet new people.

Edited October 7, 200916 yr by CraigTT

Hi mate,

 

you've allready taken the first step and that is to start talking, and trying to understand your feelings.

 

I think that i can speak for all of us and say that we have all been heartbroken and lets be honest it hurts so bad that you dont know how you will ever cope again.

 

BUT... as many have said on this thread, you need to own those feelings a bit, fully experience them, and keep expressing yourself in a safe and supportive environment. I think that all of us here share your pain and would be happy to lend a friendly ear or shoulder if thats what you want.

 

dont ever apologise for expressing your true feelings, many people will never have the strength, ability or courage to do so, and i for one applaude you for feeling and being able to speak up.

 

It is very easy for us to say that there are plenty of fish in the sea etc, and even though this is in fact true, i know from personal experience that nothing seems further from the truth during this hard time.

 

Communication is key, either in this relationship or any other for that matter, for with lack of or poor or miscommunication the result is misunderstanding, fear and ultimately lack of understanding and empathy. so again i give you much respect for communicating your feelings with us. I would however pose the question "were you as honest and open with her as you have been with us? and likewise was she with you?"

 

Nothing i can say will solve this situation, or make it any easier to cope with, but know that i for one feel honored that you would share your thoughts and feelings with us, and if there is anything that i can do to help, then please do not hesitate to ask.

 

stay strong, and keep in touch.

 

paul

to be honest mate, trying to slit ya wrist's isnt gonna help. you aint trying to commit suicide you just want her to see what you are prepared to do to make her come back to you (trust me mate i know what you are going through), as everyone has said keep active and dont let it get you down, i always find greta comfort in the fact that im not the only one that is or has felt like this and if they can-have done it then so can i

 

keep posting on here if it help's, but be prepared to not hear what you want, there is no magic words to make you feel better and there is no magic words to make her come back to you, but it wil help to spill ya heart out we are all friends on here (well most of us lol) so we will understand

 

just dont go doing anything daft, its happened to us all and it will get better no matter how hard it is now

im sorry to hear this mate - im not very good at giving advice so I'll keep my trap shut but to coin a phrase things will always get better mate, no matter how long it takes. I met you at the Tamworth photoshoot a couple of years ago and youre a damn fine chap! keep your chin up and my best wishes to you! :bow:

Mate - I'm sorry to hear that:( I'm no good with personal advice or the "tea & symathy" thing; however this forum is (sometimes) a great place to find the answer to life's problems - and not just car stuff. The two fine fellows below have said it better than I ever could.

 

I sincerely hope you find your way back mate.

 

ATB

 

Richard:)

 

Dude, best thing is to get pissed, be down and upset for a while and wallow in your self indungence.

 

Ignore the "It will get better over time" comments for now and just be upset and let it all out.

 

You'll feel like shit for ages, months maybe, then at some point you'll realise you dont feel like crap any more. It wont be like a switch and everything is fine, just one day you will realise for a while its been ok.

 

End of the day it will get better, but now now and not soon. Just have to ride it out.

 

If you need a break give me a shout and I'll put you up for a few days and i'll show you the sights of Essex nightlife (its shit but the offer is seriously there).

 

If not, just be down, your entitled to be, your ment to be, but not too down eh :)

 

to be honest mate, trying to slit ya wrist's isnt gonna help. you aint trying to commit suicide you just want her to see what you are prepared to do to make her come back to you (trust me mate i know what you are going through), as everyone has said keep active and dont let it get you down, i always find greta comfort in the fact that im not the only one that is or has felt like this and if they can-have done it then so can i

 

keep posting on here if it help's, but be prepared to not hear what you want, there is no magic words to make you feel better and there is no magic words to make her come back to you, but it wil help to spill ya heart out we are all friends on here (well most of us lol) so we will understand

 

just dont go doing anything daft, its happened to us all and it will get better no matter how hard it is now

thanks guys for all your heart felt comments i have read them all and ponderd the outcomes, a lot of my friends here at work have gone through the same thing but always bottle it up, i dont know why im strong on everything except matters of the heart, i do wish i was less sensitive but i cant its not me, i am the one who cryed in front of her begging her back, maybe i should of been stronger, i really really do want her back and would do anything to do it, she lives on my estate so makes it worse i have gone back to live with my mum and dad for the time being so she see the house empty hopefully that will get her thinking, i think i should leave her contact me and not pester her for a while, but how long do i give??? really want o talk to her face to face hope it will sort things out, she is off to wrexham sat on the piss with her friends and i nnoticed on her facebook page she wrote feeling very shitty on her status but im just grassping at straws, its my birthday in two weeks time and we were meant to go to see pink together in manchester but i sold the tickets the day after she finished with me on facebook so she could see it, its just so hard to be waiting for her to contact, maybe she wont and im just cutting myself up worse, she still has my house key i think hopefully she will ask when do i want it back and that may be the time to talk, nothing will make the pain go away i know i havent eaten since sun, i just cant, it is a great relief to be able to talk on here with friends it really is thanks guys

Dude, your in panic mode cant tell your hand from your arsehole stage. Perfectly normal, when you look back in a year and remember the feeling its proper trippy remembering how detatched from yourself you were, brain body and mind three seperate beings almost. Well ****ed up!.

 

Leave her be, if she split up with you then you contacting her will just get her back up (Cant he get the message) kind of thing. Leave it alone and see what happens.

 

Offer is there still for a few nights out too buddy, but I will force feed you a dirty fry up though! lol

Mate, i agree with pub man - you gotta try and get some food down ya. I know it seems impossible to do anything, but you must try, even if you just have a bit of soup or something. Also i agree with letting it lie a bit, see what happens, and in the meantime we are all here if you want a chat or just someone to let off steam to.

 

You are not alone bud, don't forget that.

sorry to hear mate...... I believe in fate and everything happens for a reason and all that, if you want her back then tell her and let her make the decision, I have been in your shoes i have been after my ex back for 2 and a half years but i now have given up as its not gonna happen, at least we are now friends, so best thing if she doesnt want you back is to just be friends then you never know what the future may bring...... also the old saying ' theres plenty more fish in the sea' how old are you?

thanks guys really appreceate this i really dont want to be thought of as a drama queen i just thought thats posting on here would be a relief for me and it has been