Hi all, for those of you that know me you'll know that me and Andrea have decided to split up :cry:, we've been apart for 6 weeks now and we've started to do stuff on a weekend together as a family no strings attatched.

Anyway my question is, do you think its too early to start looking for someone else? i mean like i say we're doing things together but nothing serious and she keeps saying she's gonna think about getting back together but only slowly, i'm still REALLY upset about it as is she. please give me your honest opinions (serious only please) opinions.

 

Many thanks, Chris.

If you even have to ask this question, then the answer is you are NOT ready to look for anyone else Chris, sorry!

Yeah this is only somethiing you can answer fella. But as Saz says, if you have to ask I think you already have your answer.

hmmmm, i've just spoke to her and i'm going to see her tonight to have a serious chat about whats gonna happen between us !!!

no way are u ready mate, it might make u feel better in the short run but long run youl regret it, u still need to give this thing time, all relationships have there ups and downs youl get thru it im positive.

Start looking for another partner and what u have with andrea will never work.

you shouldn't "have to look" ..... if someone comes along and the feelings are there, then you'll know its the right time...

Cheers guys, i think i'm still a bit wound up about it but i'll have to wait and see what happens tonight, you never know if i turn the charm on i might end up in my own bed again :D

My dear Chris, us ladies are highly tuned creatures, we can see through the charm :rofl:

My dear Chris, us ladies are highly tuned creatures, we can see through the charm :rofl:

 

Not from my experience....:tongue:

 

 

 

 

ooooo but wait dont think she was a she tho :confused:

:rofl: i dont think we'd get that far tonight ha ha but if i do i'll give you ALL the gory details :rofl:

no you are alright Chris lol!! We are fine without :rofl:

well if you change your mind :rofl:

Women eh,:nono: gotta love em, but after being in relationships for the past 20 odd years, i have been single now for nearly 18 months and at first you do miss the companionship and cuddles but i have never been happier on my own, we still go out occasionally for a meal and text now and then.

 

In the beginning of the break up its always hard, not just because you still care for each other, but because you got used to being together, we just drifted apart over time and were more like mates.

Its harder for you Chris with having a little boy, that keeps you seeing each other, sometimes feelings can over ride thoughts of just being friends.

 

In answer to your question tho, sometimes you feel like going out to meet someone new or maybe a one night stand, but it wont change how you feel about your ex. How would you feel if she found someone new?

If you want to get back together, then bide your time, bite your lip and it will come if its meant to be.

 

Sorry for the lifestory and lecture,:) HTH

 

All the best

Graham

Ah I think you two will come through all this together in the long run. I get that feeling anyway.

 

Not be long before your waiting for her up the aisle!

 

Pull your finger out and get it done ;)

 

Dont go looking for anyone else, as already said a one night stand is a one night stand, basically amounts to very little, if youve still got even a hint of feelings for her and your still willing to give it a go then ride it out and stay positive. It'll all come good in the end :)

 

Good luck mate

 

Chris

Women eh,:nono: gotta love em, but after being in relationships for the past 20 odd years, i have been single now for nearly 18 months and at first you do miss the companionship and cuddles but i have never been happier on my own, we still go out occasionally for a meal and text now and then.

 

In the beginning of the break up its always hard, not just because you still care for each other, but because you got used to being together, we just drifted apart over time and were more like mates.

Its harder for you Chris with having a little boy, that keeps you seeing each other, sometimes feelings can over ride thoughts of just being friends.

 

In answer to your question tho, sometimes you feel like going out to meet someone new or maybe a one night stand, but it wont change how you feel about your ex. How would you feel if she found someone new?

If you want to get back together, then bide your time, bite your lip and it will come if its meant to be.

 

Sorry for the lifestory and lecture,:) HTH

 

All the best

Graham

cheers Graham thats some good advice there mate, i'm just trying to think positive at the moment but i'm a bit messed up in the head at the moment cos my feelings are all over the place.

Ah I think you two will come through all this together in the long run. I get that feeling anyway.

 

Not be long before your waiting for her up the aisle!

 

Pull your finger out and get it done ;)

 

Dont go looking for anyone else, as already said a one night stand is a one night stand, basically amounts to very little, if youve still got even a hint of feelings for her and your still willing to give it a go then ride it out and stay positive. It'll all come good in the end :)

 

Good luck mate

 

Chris

 

One day Chris i do hope to be waiting at the alter for her but only time will tell, i'm not gettin any younger so iwe're gonna need to decide what we both want sooner rather than later.

i feel for you chris in this situation, it very hard especially when there a child involved, having read your posts over the past few weeks may i make a few observations,

you need to take back your power of your own life, it doesnt seem fair that you ex is dangling you saying things like "we need space" "and maybe we get back in a while" your in limbo with your life in someones elses hands

if your thinking of meeting someone else already, how much do you really love your ex?

and if you do feel you really love her and want to be with her go for broke buy a ring, pop the q and then accept whatever the answer is,

mind yourself and take care

I have no idea, but best of luck

i feel for you chris in this situation, it very hard especially when there a child involved, having read your posts over the past few weeks may i make a few observations,

you need to take back your power of your own life, it doesnt seem fair that you ex is dangling you saying things like "we need space" "and maybe we get back in a while" your in limbo with your life in someones elses hands

if your thinking of meeting someone else already, how much do you really love your ex?

and if you do feel you really love her and want to be with her go for broke buy a ring, pop the q and then accept whatever the answer is,

mind yourself and take care

 

thanks Trish, i stayed with her last night although nothing happened we slept in the same bed and just laid and cuddled all night, i think we both wanted a bit more but we were scared, i know it sounds silly cos we've been together for 6 years but we were really nervous.

When i said are you gonna show me to the door last night she said i don't want you to go can you please stay here with me!!!

So of course i did, and when i asked her why she wanted me to stay this morning she said it was cos she felt lonely and missed me, i have told her that the ball is now in her court and she can make the decision but i also said that i'm not going to wait forever for her cos we both have lives to live, so all in all i still dont know what she wants :headvswal

:rolleyes:get loads of parts for the zed first m8:hyper:

cos you know you wont be able to if you get back with her:headvswal

lol, i know mate, theres nowt i need for it at the moment but i'm saving for the inevidable breakdown, lol

lol, i know mate, theres nowt i need for it at the moment but i'm saving for the inevidable breakdown, lol

 

impossible

theres always something you want for these things;)

hmmm maybe a manwell conversion is in order then but not yet, i need to find my own place unless we do get back together

6 weeks too soon? Well its been 6 months for me and im not ready yet.

 

My situation is a bit like yours chris execpt it was my decision to call it a day. I ended a 6 year relationship back in Feb, we had a joint house, 5 year old son the lot.

 

I made up my mind more than a year ago but just couldnt find the right time as there is always so much going on. It was only when I started seeing another girl that I actually managed to finish it properly. The new relationship was fun and took the pain away but after a couple of months I found that she wasn't the person I thought.

 

I think if you did meet someone else right now she would always be the rebound and not the girl you really wanted, wouldnt be fair on her and would fail.

 

I'm slowly learning to be happy on my own and only when I can say that I am.

 

Then I think i will be ready.

6 weeks too soon? Well its been 6 months for me and im not ready yet.

 

My situation is a bit like yours chris execpt it was my decision to call it a day. I ended a 6 year relationship back in Feb, we had a joint house, 5 year old son the lot.

 

I made up my mind more than a year ago but just couldnt find the right time as there is always so much going on. It was only when I started seeing another girl that I actually managed to finish it properly. The new relationship was fun and took the pain away but after a couple of months I found that she wasn't the person I thought.

 

I think if you did meet someone else right now she would always be the rebound and not the girl you really wanted, wouldnt be fair on her and would fail.

 

I'm slowly learning to be happy on my own and only when I can say that I am.

 

Then I think i will be ready.

 

Cheers Ed, i know what you mean, the problem i have is i can only try so much and i'm not getting anything in return, i go out of my way everytime to try and do stuff with her and i even offer to pay for everything and alls i get is "i cant be bothered cos i'm tired" i'm starting to wonder if its worth it, i'm going out for tea with her 1 night this week and i'm gonna confront her about it and if i get no response i'm just gonna walk away and accept the answer :(