Every had 1 of them days when ya waiting for someone to say or start on ya?

 

took my kids back home today arrived at their house went in , my ex's new b/f was there with the rest or her family got on all well even tho im not keen on her new boyfriend because my lil girl said he smacked her:rant:

sorted that the otherday ;) and he didnt say 2 words even tho i was waiting for a blow up..... said my good byes to the kids and drove home 200miles away,

get nearly home and gets a call from my 9yr old girl sobbing her heart out saying he started on her again took her phone off her and got nasty :rant::mad:

 

im nearly blue with rage by now after warning him once already , i tell my little girl i'll ring when i get home to see whats going on, ya no what little kids are like just incase she's going over the top,

get home ring the ex she's mouthing down phone so i basically tell her to shut up;) then she puts the phone down :headvswal i bloody hate it when they do that , so ring back , then her choppsy cow of a mouth starts ( they no how to push my buttons ) by then ive blown my lid and told them what im gonna do if he touches any of the kids again then her them put me on speakerphone so i make sure he can hear me ..... he went deadly silent when i told him... cutting long story short i told him i didnt mind doing time again , obviously in the nicest possible way......

i need a bloody drink :nelson: :rant: and my mum and dads taken my keys off me to stop me going up there :headvswal

 

sorry for ranting i dnt normally post my private life up on things like this but need to get it out for some reason :mad:

Its a toughy mate. feel for ya, its awfull having kids when youve split up, especially when the ex has a new fella...but just rmember mate......you cant protect them if your banged up, just try to calm down (easier said then done I know).:headvswal

be calm and for ****s sake dont drink, it will make things worse, wait till tomorrow and ring them again and try and be civil (even if for your kids sake), like kim said, you cant protect them if you are in the nick, maybe they are tring to provoke a situation, there are ways and means of dealing with scrotes like him

yeah ya both right think i need a kip ;)

 

im fine with her having someone else we split over 6yrs ago , she fine when she's on her own but soon as she gets a new guy she turns , she stopped me seeing the kids for 6yrs by making up some very sick stuff about my kids, i suppose i still got all that bruing inside me , cheers guys im gonna have a chill with my 11months old boy and take him for a walk round the park, his smile and laugh cheers me up :D

{big hugs} Just chill hun, I know its not easy hearing your child on the phone crying or upset... but for then, as above, don't provoke the situation.

its good to talk or at least write down your feeling's, i did it the other week when i had a fight with my dad, you and lots of others gave me the suort i was after, its good to have someone apart from family to relate to

I hate to ask this question, but do you really have reservations about your childrens welfare in the presence of this man?

I hate to ask this question, but do you really have reservations about your childrens welfare in the presence of this man?

 

I was thinking the same thing. But how much of it is him being out of order vs your daughter.

 

But as he isn't a permanent fixture and is only living there I would have a word with your solicitor about it. Again, dont fall into your wives trap of you ending up inside and being banned from seeing the kids, you cant protect them inside can you, fight with your head first mate.

I hate to ask this question, but do you really have reservations about your childrens welfare in the presence of this man?

 

not just him but the whole living arrangment , the whole house is a tip smells of p1ss all over, she lets my little boy watch horra dvds and and play games thats for ages 18, he's only 6:shock: she calls them little b4stards and says there always naughty... she tried telling me that my son had ADHD or something lmao, these kids are fine and there only like that because she let them run wild without correcting them , when they are with me they are great and very polite always saying please and thankyou. but when it comes to taking them home they sob their hearts out saying they dont wanna go :( its very upsetting.

 

cutting a very very long story short after not seeing the kids for years because of a very sick allegation their mum made up and going back and forth to court everymonth for about 4/5 years i had enough and lost my head in the court room called the jugde a gulible w4nker with rose tinted glasses and walked out ,told them i washed my hands with it all and i'll be there when the kids are old enough to make there own choice and speak for them selves so i carried on sending letters,pics and presents to them so they wouldnt forget me .

1year and abit later get a call at 8pm in may , was my little boy! I didnt have a clue who it was because when i left he was just a toddler and just learning to talk ..needless to say i ws over come with emotion:cry: his 1st words to me was '' Daddy its Nathan, and i love you and miss you'' i wanted to tell him how much i missed him and his sister but i just couldnt get the words out cus i was crying so much lol.

The very next day i drove to yorkshire to get them.since then i go get them 1 wkend month and half of all school holidays and ring and txt al the time to ask how there day has been and if they need anything,

Thena couple of weeks later i found out my ex had split with her boyfriend and thats why she let kids contact me,and she said she been thinking of me alot blah blah blah :rolleyes: and that she wanted me to see the kids again and was sorry for everything she'd done to me (including sleeping with my mate while i wa at work and kids was in house:nono:) wished she could turn back time and that she never stopped loving me......for those who was wondering yes i was tempted just to be close to my kids but! i love my new misses too much to cheat and my new baby son!:) the ex didnt like it 1 little bit but i told her we could try n be friends & forget what had happened and leave the past in the past.Was going really well but then she started to txt me everyday asking me back and saying other stuff.but sorted it and all was fine again, then she meets this guy Andrew only 23 and i thought yeh i no what he's after the story down the pub of milf, i just laughed to my self but he seemed a nice enough guy. the kids was fine until he moved in only 3wks later!!! she didnt no nothing about this guy and told her what i thought in a nice way , just to find out more before she makes big changes like that cuz it effects the kids too!.... she didnt listen and thats when it all started , he started braking the kids stuff, phones ,dvd's with temper and taking stuff off them including a phone i gave her:rant: by now im trying to keep my cool but had to say something i felt he was taking the mick and cuz he's 6'6 and 18stone i think he felt i was intimidated lol wrong ive been in the cage with bigger and better guys than him!

so i told him striaght and was all done and dusted, but just lately kids have told me he hit them.Now i feel like i should sort it my way as ive tried courts and there full of posh bentley driving tw4ts who havent a clue about anything!

the kids have been through enough crap in the short lives already including seeing there mum beaten black and blue and being hit them selfs by the guy that hit there mum , which i sorted and got done for .. but it was worth it as it was the same mate she slept with while i was out, what comes around goes around! :D i wasnt bother he hit her i told her what he was like and guess what she didnt listen :)

But he hit my babies and that send me into a red mist rage:mad:

god talk about airing my launderie lmao

ever felt you done something you shouldnt of?

thats how i feel about this post now lmao:D

And my idea of a bad day was the car not starting and then the bus being late lol :rofl:

 

Sure things will work out though, hopefully sooner than later!!

And my idea of a bad day was the car not starting and then the bus being late lol :rofl:

 

Sure things will work out though, hopefully sooner than later!!

 

pmsl im sure it will :D

'' Daddy its Nathan, and i love you and miss you''

 

Dude that brought a tear to my eye!

 

Good luck with whatever your and your kids' future holds.

 

Robert.

hey mate , reading your post and me being in a similar position i know what you are going through i know the emotions you feel ive been there done that got the tshirt

 

some sound advice going on in here for you mate ....first of all and i know you dont need me to tell you this ..YOUR BETTER OFF WITHOUT HER

 

secondly , and i know you are doing this allready ..be the best Dad you possibly can be for your kids, AT ALL TIMES and never make a promis to them that you cant keep, dont let them see the nasty side of adult life from you .dont argue in front of them let them see you in the best light possible, ....you are bang on

the Kids will make up their own mind and see what is what and who is to blame when they are old enough to fully understand , what goes round comes round ..she will get hers later in life for sure as will her B,friend

 

keep calm dont rise to her bait she is wanting a reaction off you , DONT let her win that one , dont react to what she says or does unless it directly involves or harms the kiddies

 

keep a diary of everything she does that is not good mothering in your opinion , dates and times and details , as far as the Boyfriend goes , well he is having to deal with her shite now so good enough for him .....SHE should be stopping him smacking the kids , if he assaults your kids again go see a solicitor with your diary and get a restraining order banged on him it means he cant be anywhere near them ..or her if she is with them ,

 

but above all else keep calm keep adult keep the kids in the forefront of your mind ,

and if you need to talk at any time PM me

 

hope it works out for you , im sure it will chin up buddy

 

Steve

ever felt you done something you shouldnt of?

thats how i feel about this post now lmao:D

 

Pay your subscription fees and you will be able to edit your posts, ALWAYS handy:headvswal

If the fella is behaving like that to the kids you need to talk to social services. It will cause all sorts of shit for you, but they have to investigate. If they get told by the kids he hits them etc it will be officially noted. Where you take it from there is up to you mate.

not just him but the whole living arrangment , the whole house is a tip smells of p1ss all over, she lets my little boy watch horra dvds and and play games thats for ages 18, he's only 6:shock: she calls them little b4stards and says there always naughty... she tried telling me that my son had ADHD or something lmao, these kids are fine and there only like that because she let them run wild without correcting them , when they are with me they are great and very polite always saying please and thankyou. but when it comes to taking them home they sob their hearts out saying they dont wanna go :( its very upsetting.

 

cutting a very very long story short after not seeing the kids for years because of a very sick allegation their mum made up and going back and forth to court everymonth for about 4/5 years i had enough and lost my head in the court room called the jugde a gulible w4nker with rose tinted glasses and walked out ,told them i washed my hands with it all and i'll be there when the kids are old enough to make there own choice and speak for them selves so i carried on sending letters,pics and presents to them so they wouldnt forget me .

1year and abit later get a call at 8pm in may , was my little boy! I didnt have a clue who it was because when i left he was just a toddler and just learning to talk ..needless to say i ws over come with emotion:cry: his 1st words to me was '' Daddy its Nathan, and i love you and miss you'' i wanted to tell him how much i missed him and his sister but i just couldnt get the words out cus i was crying so much lol.

The very next day i drove to yorkshire to get them.since then i go get them 1 wkend month and half of all school holidays and ring and txt al the time to ask how there day has been and if they need anything,

Thena couple of weeks later i found out my ex had split with her boyfriend and thats why she let kids contact me,and she said she been thinking of me alot blah blah blah :rolleyes: and that she wanted me to see the kids again and was sorry for everything she'd done to me (including sleeping with my mate while i wa at work and kids was in house:nono:) wished she could turn back time and that she never stopped loving me......for those who was wondering yes i was tempted just to be close to my kids but! i love my new misses too much to cheat and my new baby son!:) the ex didnt like it 1 little bit but i told her we could try n be friends & forget what had happened and leave the past in the past.Was going really well but then she started to txt me everyday asking me back and saying other stuff.but sorted it and all was fine again, then she meets this guy Andrew only 23 and i thought yeh i no what he's after the story down the pub of milf, i just laughed to my self but he seemed a nice enough guy. the kids was fine until he moved in only 3wks later!!! she didnt no nothing about this guy and told her what i thought in a nice way , just to find out more before she makes big changes like that cuz it effects the kids too!.... she didnt listen and thats when it all started , he started braking the kids stuff, phones ,dvd's with temper and taking stuff off them including a phone i gave her:rant: by now im trying to keep my cool but had to say something i felt he was taking the mick and cuz he's 6'6 and 18stone i think he felt i was intimidated lol wrong ive been in the cage with bigger and better guys than him!

so i told him striaght and was all done and dusted, but just lately kids have told me he hit them.Now i feel like i should sort it my way as ive tried courts and there full of posh bentley driving tw4ts who havent a clue about anything!

the kids have been through enough crap in the short lives already including seeing there mum beaten black and blue and being hit them selfs by the guy that hit there mum , which i sorted and got done for .. but it was worth it as it was the same mate she slept with while i was out, what comes around goes around! :D i wasnt bother he hit her i told her what he was like and guess what she didnt listen :)

But he hit my babies and that send me into a red mist rage:mad:

god talk about airing my launderie lmao

 

 

Know how you feel mate and you know where i am !

ever felt you done something you shouldnt of?

thats how i feel about this post now lmao:D

 

It can easily be binned ;)

If the fella is behaving like that to the kids you need to talk to social services. It will cause all sorts of shit for you, but they have to investigate. If they get told by the kids he hits them etc it will be officially noted. Where you take it from there is up to you mate.

 

she's already none by them mate, and thats what ive been thinking of doing for a whie now :) its a big step and i need to think more about it i think ???

Know how you feel mate and you know where i am !

 

cheers paul , your a star mate:)

cheers everyone and thanks for all your advice , and ive taken lots of notes of things to do ,

 

gonna keep my cool and play it the right way ;)

 

Thanks for the advice again

 

Wayne x

It can easily be binned ;)

 

Thanks:) i'll just have 1 more read and let ya no :)