Last night while my girl was out with her boyfriend and her best mate, she was offered coke, not the sort you mix with vodka the sort you snort.

 

The thing is it was by her best mate who has stayed over at my house lots of times and is a nice girl. She said to my daughter "I have some drugs for us later" and my girl didn't twig to what she said until later in the club she took out the coke and said "just rub some on your gums"

 

Now my girl had the good sense to tell her to keep it, but the thing is she had looked afetr her handbag for a lot of the night and was in 'possesion' without knowing it.

 

I am so angry and upset that I had to come home from work tonight.

 

Can I get your thoughts so I can sort my head out

My ex`s coke habit ruined our marriage, our lives and my bank balance.

 

I`m an "oldschool" ex-squaddie and personally I hate drugs and always have, I think drug use just shows a defect of character and morality, so big up to your wee lass for showing some spine and commonsense.

its a credit to you both as parents for bringing her up correctly and having a trusting relationship ..whatever you do now dont upset that trust , she has come to you and told you , i would talk to her and ask what she would want or expect you to do about it, ........either way she did right , she knows now her friend does drugs and she will make up her mind if she wants to stay friends with her , all people experiment in some form or another ..its part of lifes rich tapestry ....all you can do now is be secure in the knowledge your girl knows whats right and whats wrong and has a good head on her shoulders , ...........involving the police will force a situation you may or may not regret ,....possibly get the friends parents round for a meal and openly discuss with them in private ..they should at least be aware .......put yourself in their shoes if it was their daughter being offered drugs by yours wouldnt you want to know about it ??

 

steve

Glad she told you bud.

Now im only 24 so I wont claim to have as much life experiance as alot of you but I work with Dealers/Crack Heads/Smack heads and all sorts every day.

 

Alot of them will tell you it started off and softer stuff and then that wasnt enough anymore so moved on.

 

Crack cocaine (a purer form of coke) has to be one of the worst drugs in the world imo. Ive had Crack addicts tell me that they would of done anything for a £25 rock including killing people, its THAT addictive they will do anything for another fix.

 

On the other side of the coin as well I seen people who have smoked that much weed/skunk that now they are permamently messed up, They get flash backs and the worst case of paranoia in the the world.

 

Heroin addicts that have to have Doctors take their blood instead of nurses because their veins are so shot to bits that it has to be taken from their groin area.

 

Now in my opinion people can do what they like, But when they start hurting other people thats wrong, Robbing/Killing etc, But even if they dont think they are hurting other people "I smoke weed, but thats ok because it doesnt hurt anyone"

Where do you think that money goes to? What type of people do you think your paying their wages ?

Im not gonna claim to of never smoked weed, But its somthing to think about isnt it ?

Anyway rant over :)

Mate it sounds like you have a good honest daughter if she came to talk to you about it and said no.

 

I don't think you have anything to worry about, she doesn't sound like the kind of girl to try anything like that

I was always fiercely anti-drugs and said no for years until one of my mates kindly dropped acid in my pint on a trip to Blackpool.

What a night that turned out to be.

Kind of changed my opinion on drugs and my whole outlook on life.

Not proud of it but I've done all sorts of recreational drugs over the years but it's not very often and has never been a problem.

It really is everywhere and all sorts of normal/decent/hardworking people do it so you can't really say she's got in with the wrong crowd.

Go into any bar or club and you'll find people doing coke and pills behind the toilet doors.

I've got a small daughter myself and think about it all the time.

All you can do is give her some advice and hope she has the common sense not to abuse it if she does get lured into it.

Anyone with half a brain knows to stay away from the really hard stuff.

At the end of the day alcohol causes far more problems IMO

I was always fiercely anti-drugs and said no for years until one of my mates kindly dropped acid in my pint on a trip to Blackpool.

What a night that turned out to be.

Kind of changed my opinion on drugs and my whole outlook on life.

Not proud of it but I've done all sorts of recreational drugs over the years but it's not very often and has never been a problem.

It really is everywhere and all sorts of normal/decent/hardworking people do it so you can't really say she's got in with the wrong crowd.

Go into any bar or club and you'll find people doing coke and pills behind the toilet doors.

I've got a small daughter myself and think about it all the time.

All you can do is give her some advice and hope she has the common sense not to abuse it if she does get lured into it.

Anyone with half a brain knows to stay away from the really hard stuff.

At the end of the day alcohol causes far more problems IMO

 

Just what Scrawni wanted to hear,, normal/decent/hardworking people with less than half a brain take the stuff, so that makes it OK then? :nono:

Wait till the worry starts when your daughter reaches 13-14 :headvswal

Dont think he meant it like that. I have to say if someone put something in my beer they would find out just what a realy wasomly bad idea it was.

 

I think kids will make their own minds up, parents nagging tehm about it will just make them pull away even more.

 

What chris says makes sence, inform her, let her know how monumentaly dumb and dangerous it could be and then, I am afraid step back and let her make her own way in life.

 

As for normal hard working people, are tehre any other kind who can afford them?

Just what Scrawni wanted to hear,, normal/decent/hardworking people with less than half a brain take the stuff, so that makes it OK then? :nono:

Wait till the worry starts when your daughter reaches 13-14 :headvswal

 

Sorry, maybe it's not what he wants to hear but I see it every weekend.

Beleive me i'm already worried about my daughter being out when she's older and will certainly try to stear her clear of drugs and all the other nasty stuff in life but I think some peoples attitude is totally naive.

What I was trying to say is that you can't try to keep your daughter away from a certain crowd because one of them might have done drugs, they really are everywhere these days in all parts of society and trying to deny that is just hiding your head in the sand.

Kids rebel and do exactly what you tell them not to and telling her the kind of stuff that was used to "educate" people about drugs 20 years ago clearly hasn't worked as there's millions more people now doing it every weekend and they are far from the scum of the earth and addicts some people would like to think.

All I'm saying is be realistic.

I know I'm new here but the most important thing your girl did tonight was acutally tell you!!!

That show real trust and I can only hope my daughter trusts me enough to confide in me.

Specially as

 

A. She never even took any so why did she even tell you!!!

B. It was her best friend.

 

Both of those reasons are good enought not to bother telling you but she did anyway.

 

Sounds to me like your very close and she trusts you 100%.

 

The fact that she was offered it by a best mate and she was probs drinking too, plus the fact she was drinking and STILL turned it down can only show her in a good light, thats a credit to you mate.

 

The possession thing is a bit annoying, she could have gotten away with that if she had absolutly no idea it was in there had they gotten caught.

Trust me......I now ;-)

 

I think all in all its part of growing up, sadly drugs is rife these days and believe it or not most kids these days have tried them, and learned from them.

If I were you I'd not mention it to much, leave it be and just trust her like she trusted you.

She will stay out of trouble mate, lets just hope her friend wakes up and smells summet else eh.

 

Stay cool

 

Steviejay

smash her face in

 

thats out of order!

All I can say is i'm glad you and your daughter have a relationship where she can come to you and tell you whats happend and be honest about it.

 

Im only 20 myself. I have been clubbing in the bars in Oxford since i was 16 (helps being a big old boy!) and the drug culture as been rife as anything. It's getting to the point where I have lost many friends (not litrally, they are all still alive! Just arguments) and refuse to go to many of the clubs in Oxford. Some people are sooo blatant about it too which beggars belief.

 

You also wont have to worry about you daughter taking drugs. If she can come to you and tell you her best mate is on drugs, she won't be stupid enough to take them herself.

Sorry, maybe it's not what he wants to hear but I see it every weekend.

Beleive me i'm already worried about my daughter being out when she's older and will certainly try to stear her clear of drugs and all the other nasty stuff in life but I think some peoples attitude is totally naive.

What I was trying to say is that you can't try to keep your daughter away from a certain crowd because one of them might have done drugs, they really are everywhere these days in all parts of society and trying to deny that is just hiding your head in the sand.

Kids rebel and do exactly what you tell them not to and telling her the kind of stuff that was used to "educate" people about drugs 20 years ago clearly hasn't worked as there's millions more people now doing it every weekend and they are far from the scum of the earth and addicts some people would like to think.

All I'm saying is be realistic.

 

Buddy, your right, its just a crazy world, maybe Im just being a little too paranoid, but my youngest is 13 years so, as you can see Im really looking forward to the next few years ;)

Scrawni you and you wife must be real proud of you daughter that she refused the drugs and told you.

 

It must also be really worrying to find she was put in that situation as well.

 

I hope her friend gets herself sorted out.

 

Thinking of you all

 

Eileen

smash her face in

 

thats out of order!

 

Thats not the answer to anything :nono:

I would just like to thank all of you that have commented in what ever way.

 

Yes I/we are very proud of my girl and her boyfriend also as he has a very good influence on her and a very kind and sensative head on his shoulders.

 

I trust my girl implicitly and know that what ever she does she does because its the right thing to do, as some have said not to tell her and lecture I don't, although she would argue that point, I always use the term you should and not the term you must.

 

The reason I was all het up was that someone had put her in harms way and that got me to the point where I couldn't think staight and the more I tried the worse I got, so I got pissed and that allways makes me laugh :D

 

Thanks again for all your support

 

Scrawni