What do i do? My mum and step dad have been togeter since i was 9 (i'm now 24) and i alway's get him a card but just b4 xmas they split up. Do i still get a card??

 

I think i no what im going to do but would like advice from ppl that don't relly know me thank's.

get a card, he was there for you for all those years in my opinion just because your mum has cut ties you shouldnt have to suffer your relationship with him, if you chose not to that is.

Im in the same situation but I personally Im gonna get a card as he still is my step dad after nearly 20 years

ity doesent have to be a Dad or fathers day card just a token of your appreciation

i still would - as zgirl says, hes been there for you through the hardest bit!!! Itd just show a bit of respect for what hes done for you.

 

im now 24 and my mum and stepdad (although i call him dad) have been together since i was 12 - and id definately still get him a card.

Thank's that's what i was thinking

Get a card... It's all about respect ;)

if you were close i would get him a card, i would with my step dad

I have a similar situation ...

i get him a card and stay in regular contact.

Hes been around most of my life so hes been my DAD ;)

I got one

I got one

Well done, good on you mate, you did the right thing. You'll make his day :bow: :bow:

get him a card,,i wish my boy was sending me one or my daughter come to that,,,rant over

get a card, he was there for you for all those years in my opinion just because your mum has cut ties you shouldnt have to suffer your relationship with him, if you chose not to that is.

 

Agree too.

 

He has been a father to you for 15 years so it seems right that you should still get a card.

 

He will appreciate it that you still love and respect him.

 

Richard :smw:

but do you still send your real dad one too

after all , hes the one who made you

but do you still send your real dad one too

after all , hes the one who made you

Thats not straight forward is it, Just because someone is your Biological parent does not make them your DAD ?

I have 3 of my own children and 2 step daughters and ive been around the step daughters since they were 6 & 8 now 14 & 16, I go to parents evenings i cloth and feed them i make sure they have a safe & comfortable life, All the time im doing this there real farther cant be arsed to pay or help in there day to day maintenance or even send Christmas and birthday cards let alone any gifts ? i ask who is the real father ?

Im not jumping on you or anything, just adding some reality to the argument. :D

If he looked after you as a dad for all those years then i would matey

fella it seems like you want to send him a card so i say do it it will show him you still care and think of him tell your mum your sending it if you feel your doing wrong but im sure mum will respect you for it atb ;)

It's all about putting the time in. It don't take much (in terms of commitment and responsibility) to be a bio-dad.

Thats not straight forward is it, Just because someone is your Biological parent does not make them your DAD ?

I have 3 of my own children and 2 step daughters and ive been around the step daughters since they were 6 & 8 now 14 & 16, I go to parents evenings i cloth and feed them i make sure they have a safe & comfortable life, All the time im doing this there real farther cant be arsed to pay or help in there day to day maintenance or even send Christmas and birthday cards let alone any gifts ? i ask who is the real father ?

Im not jumping on you or anything, just adding some reality to the argument. :D

 

 

got to disagree with you there

i can see what you mean (your circumstances)

but not all blokes get the chance to see there kids ie.(fathers for justice)

does that not make them there dads anymore????

send him a card buddy and pop round. he might not be with your mother anymore but he has been with you since you were 9. it only takes 10 mins. you will feel better for it i promise

thank's for all the help, i got a card and a gift.

Well done matey, i'm sure he'll be more than pleased you remembered

thank's for all the help, i got a card and a gift.

 

 

you did the right thing love you would have bad if you hadnt hope he likes his gift ;)