Until i was 18, i had not met my father, or his side of my family.

Upon meeting them all, i instantly took a shine to my uncle, more so than my father.

It seemed that from day one, we were clones of each other.

he moved 200 miles last year, to retire to the seaside even though he is only 57, just 10 miles from home, im now 35

I still, consider this guy to be the closest thing to a natural father i could have.

 

Last night at 2am, he had a fit in his sleep and was rushed into hospital

at 5pm tonight, we were told he has terminal cancer of the brain, liver and chest.

 

to say my world has fallen apart is not even close.

He does not know yet, and we are not sure to tell him or not.

I have just spent an hour writting him a letter, if we do tell him, i want him to read it, and to know what he means to me, if we dont tell him, he will never know.

 

Cancer is a prick, and has no mercy for anyone.

Yesterday, he was happy and gardening, and moaning that us bin men had not collected his bins again.

tonight, he is in a bed, on a drip with a cathetar in place, unaware he may not see christmas.

 

I have no idea why im saying this here, but for a moment anyway, it's helping.

 

Anyone want some words of advice????

 

tell the people who matter, that they matter. because tomorrow maybe too late...it is for me and my uncle

your right grunt

 

people deal with this sort of thing in their own way

 

may sound really stupid but when my mum died i didnt like telling people, when people phoned up for her i would say she was out

 

just blocked it all out, my way of dealing with it i guess :(

Realy sorry to hear this outcome so soon,

my thougths are with you.

 

Allan

Well, my uncle took a turn for a worse, and was taken to hospital, there was nothing they could do, apart from sedate him, and give him pain killers, at 6pm, he passed away.

 

Less than 2 months from being told he had it, he's gone

 

I was there with him at the end, gutted now..truly gutted

 

We all gonne go there one day. Not sure whats after this life but we will all end up at the same place.

 

Stay strong man.

:( Really sorry to hear this bud.

 

Thoughts are with you and your family, See you tonight.

 

Rich

t-pot

caz and my thoughts are with you at this painful time. its so difficult to loose someone your very close to and all i can say is that we as a club and your friends will be here to talk to if you need it bud!

 

take care

gaz :(

:rolleyes: :(

Very, very sorry to hear that T-pot.

Remember the good times, be strong and make him proud.

Terrible mate, v. sorry to hear about your uncle, I lost a very close friend to a brain tumour a couple of years ago when she was only 21, its f*****g awful, all I can say is try to keep your chin up and remember him at his best because this is what he would want. Deepest condolences,

Rich

My deepest condolances T.Pot , I also lost a very close uncle a few years back, i also considered him as a replacement father as my own dad walked out when i was sixteen and i,ve never forgiven him .

Can,t really give any advise but remember time is a healer and you will come to terms with his loss eventually.

My thoughts are with you and your family , may he rest in peace .

Allan

Tpot,

Bud, I am here for you along with all the member on this forum.

your family,

your friends outside of computer/forum life.

Just thought I'd remind you and restate your friendship on this forum bud.