Last night while my girl was out with her boyfriend and her best mate, she was offered coke, not the sort you mix with vodka the sort you snort.

 

The thing is it was by her best mate who has stayed over at my house lots of times and is a nice girl. She said to my daughter "I have some drugs for us later" and my girl didn't twig to what she said until later in the club she took out the coke and said "just rub some on your gums"

 

Now my girl had the good sense to tell her to keep it, but the thing is she had looked afetr her handbag for a lot of the night and was in 'possesion' without knowing it.

 

I am so angry and upset that I had to come home from work tonight.

 

Can I get your thoughts so I can sort my head out

good on her to tell you and to say no, smart girl, but unfortunately its the way of the world (for clubbers anyway) ive took it, and a lot of my friends have, it was my choice and no one forced me,

 

it made me out to be a twat, but that was me, it affects people in different ways

Mate, I fookin HATE drugs in every way shape or form, just thank your lucky stars that your daughter has a sensible head on her shoulders, she was extremely lucky not to get caught with the drugs in her possession. :(

not sure what to say tbh i dont think i would be happy in your shoes but it does seem that more and more people are snorting that stuff nowadays !

good on her to tell you and to say no, smart girl, but unfortunately its the way of the world (for clubbers anyway) ive took it, and a lot of my friends have, it was my choice and no one forced me,

 

it made me out to be a twat, but that was me, it affects people in different ways

You are a Tw@t! :tongue: :tongue:

good to see your girl said no shows good upbringing

might be worth having a word with her mate on the queit if shes a proper friend to your daughter she should accept your wishes and understand your views im not saying you should get all social worker on her but being honest is the best policy

stellaz right it does different things to people if you need any advise my lass is a manager for ex wommen offenders and has done loads of drug courses and has some good info and leaflets...she'd be happy to help in any way she can.........its unfortunate but its todays society and at least you've given your daughter the tools to combat it hope it turns out ok for you

not sure what to say tbh i dont think i would be happy in your shoes but it does seem that more and more people are snorting that stuff nowadays !

who :wack:

 

 

can understand your anger bud, if it was my daughter id be the same :mad:

Report the 'mate' to the police!-end of,could save her too if warned early!!

Report the 'mate' to the police!-end of,could save her too if warned early!!

i agree but you could run the risk of alienating your daughter....."you shopped my mate to the cops" sort of thing its a fine line to tread

Thanks guys, I think I need to sort my head out more than anyone elses

 

My girl was upset to say the least and I am proud that she did the right thing and also told us as parents.

 

Now I think we did the right thing and told the other girls parents, like I said she is a good girl but it looks like she has gone to uni and got mixed up with the wrong kind of party.

dont get me wrong, im not a fan of drugs, im a person who has to try for himself far rather than being told about things, one thing i was told is, that if i wanted to try it, try it when someone is around who knows how to handle the effects of drugs and the things they can do to you (not very reasurring, but better than trying it, collspsing and everyone panaking)

Thanks guys, I think I need to sort my head out more than anyone elses

 

My girl was upset to say the least and I am proud that she did the right thing and also told us as parents.

 

Now I think we did the right thing and told the other girls parents, like I said she is a good girl but it looks like she has gone to uni and got mixed up with the wrong kind of party.

 

people always say that "they are mixed up with the wrong people", but its not the people offering drugs, itds the people taking, no one is forced, not sticking up for her but if she wanted to tkae drugs, it made no difference to what crowd she was in

you must have done something right in bringing her up first she said no and she confided in you says a lot for your relationship, i dont think you have too much to worry about with her, as regards her friend maybe a quiet word about the dangers etc might be enough if she chooses not to be your daughters friend any more it will be tough but she will get over it

drugs are everywhere and over here coke is the drug of choice of the professional and upper class, we cant protect our children from coming in to contact with it or its users but rather educate and give them the confidence to cope with situations s they arise, dont worry too much your daughter sounds great

dont get me wrong, im not a fan of drugs, im a person who has to try for himself far rather than being told about things, one thing i was told is, that if i wanted to try it, try it when someone is around who knows how to handle the effects of drugs and the things they can do to you (not very reasurring, but better than trying it, collspsing and everyone panaking)

 

I don't think there are any of us on here mate that haven't tried or been near some sort of drugs, and its gonna be one of those issues that will breed the sanctimoniuos twits (nice word for a change) so don't feel judged at least by me, its just my little girl has now and for the first time been afected by it and it makes me feel like I want to destroy something.

Fair play on your daughter for saying no and telling you. I only hope my kids are the same when they are older.

I think you did the right thing by telling her friends parents and hopefully it will now make your daughter think twice before looking after anybodys stuff apart from her own. Hopefully that will make sure it never happens again.

dont worry aboout me bud lol, but nfortunately was she telling you about them cause she didnt want to take them or was she looking for your advice on what to do if she did, she is curious just like me and you were

 

IMHO, the stern approach is always the worst, tell her she shouldnt and that they are wrong is the wrong way about it, people always rebell, instead of telling her why not to take drugs, try telling her what the outcome of taking drugs is, thats the way my parents brought me up (knowing i was inqusitive) and it helped

dont worry aboout me bud lol, but nfortunately was she telling you about them cause she didnt want to take them or was she looking for your advice on what to do if she did, she is curious just like me and you were

 

IMHO, the stern approach is always the worst, tell her she shouldnt and that they are wrong is the wrong way about it, people always rebell, instead of telling her why not to take drugs, try telling her what the outcome of taking drugs is, thats the way my parents brought me up (knowing i was inqusitive) and it helped

 

Yeah and look at your avatar :rofl: :rofl: No just kiddin

 

You are right about rebeling, the telling days are when they are young and they do what you tell them, then you have to lead by example (thats why I get hammered away from home) I think certain ways are good some, my mom said I can't stop you from smoking I just don't want you to ( took me a long time to give up)

 

You sound like you haver the the rifht head on your shoulders to cope with modern times, as i think your folks do, and my girl is amonst people that care for her on all sides so she will be ok with all of this, of that I'm greatful.

same as above really, hats off to your daughter Scrawni for telling you. i cant really comment because ive never taken drugs of any form (bar a bit of ibuprofen now and again) but at the end of the line it surely has to lead to bad news whether it be O/D, crime, addiction, money, whatever. but the annoying thing for me is what you say Scrawni about the fact that she was unwittingly 'in possession'. what if your daughter's friend had offered someone else who'd said no and told a bouncer who then asked your daughter what was in the bag? :nono:

same as above really, hats off to your daughter Scrawni for telling you. i cant really comment because ive never taken drugs of any form (bar a bit of ibuprofen now and again) but at the end of the line it surely has to lead to bad news whether it be O/D, crime, addiction, money, whatever. but the annoying thing for me is what you say Scrawni about the fact that she was unwittingly 'in possession'. what if your daughter's friend had offered someone else who'd said no and told a bouncer who then asked your daughter what was in the bag? :nono:

 

Thats one of the things that is boiling my piss right about now, you see.

 

My girls boyfriend is the son of one of Daventry's bad boys, now that means drugs, fighting and all sorts in fact it has ruined his life. He, my girls boyfriend, has nothing to do with him because of this and is a very nice boy and very aware of the image his name gets (and hates it) also held the bag for a time (I called him a pof for holding a girls bag lol) said he would have been slammed and dunked just for being there.

 

man its shit, good kids can't get a move on life

hope you get this sorted mate, as said before she really resects you to tell you something like that, you got a good daughter there!!.

Stellaz right though about the stren approach. we all rebal when told not to do stuff.

If our mambee pambee goverment put up some hard hitting ad's about things like drugs then it might make some people think abit more about taking them.

If you saw someone who had just been given Narcan(reverse's the affects of some drugs) come around. then it would make people think about taking them in the first place.

Thanks peeps

 

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it just goes to show what a credit she is to you by refusing and telling you.

 

she sounds a good un, you must be well proud.

Last night while my girl was out with her boyfriend and her best mate, she was offered coke, not the sort you mix with vodka the sort you snort.

 

The thing is it was by her best mate who has stayed over at my house lots of times and is a nice girl. She said to my daughter "I have some drugs for us later" and my girl didn't twig to what she said until later in the club she took out the coke and said "just rub some on your gums"

 

Now my girl had the good sense to tell her to keep it, but the thing is she had looked afetr her handbag for a lot of the night and was in 'possesion' without knowing it.

 

I am so angry and upset that I had to come home from work tonight.

 

Can I get your thoughts so I can sort my head out

 

You should be very proud of her,, I've got 3 daughts, the oldest 22 years.

I would die for any one of them, but, all you can do is your best, which it seems you have done.

My 18 year old daughter has just seen the true colours of one of her best friends, I could not belive what she told me about that friend I thought was a little angel :(

 

Wish they was all 2 year olds at times,,, they've made me go grey. :cry:

Mate. Dont know you or yourt daughter.

 

Gota say thats some special relationship you got with her for her to tell you about it. As for teh drugs I am afraid it seems shes made teh right decision, give her a pat on the back.

 

As for her dumb assed mate, well. You wont need to do much, I am sure shel make a complete twat of herself on her own.

 

But you might want to let her know in a fatherly way that you are not amused by her actions involving your daughter.

Top class daughter with a top class Dad.(and Mum)

Respect. to you all.

Fair play mate - she sounds like she's got her head screwed on.

 

Recreational drugs are demonized somewhat and plenty of normal people take them and enjoy them and never have any problems.

 

All said though, I don't think they do anyone any real good and best steer clear in the long run.